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We know of so many people who are facing impossible situations and problems and they are helpless. They do not know what to do or whom to ask.Ā 

This is a dedicated site for those who are searching for answers, who want to break from their present repeating circles of life and looking for answers that will understand them, help them find a new way-a new solution towards life beautiful and Divine.

How should I handle it, if friend seems to show off their materialistic achievements, like buying the latest phone, a house, a car, and affording branded clothes and shoes, while taking great pride in emphasizing that their hard work is finally paying off because they can now afford these things. Whenever I talk to them, I feel a sense of competitionšŸ¤Ø, as if I need to earn more and more, and it seems like they take satisfaction in knowing that I earn less than them.

You should simply laugh it off. It is the sign that they have not outgrown the child stage where one displays one’s toys. It also

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Dear Alok da, since itā€™s festival time the atmosphere is full of vital energies and all day I have to meet people and socialise, the days I donā€™t meet many and in my routine I can concentrate and so my dreams too are clear and symbolic but these days due to the situation all is spoil and dreams are of subconscious chaos, past memories or I donā€™t remember, so can you advise what to do? Though since more than a month every nite as I sleep off Motherā€™s Savitri commentaries with Sunil daā€™s music is on only but other than that what can I došŸ¤”?

Yes, socialization is almost like a disease that is difficult to get out of the system once it settles as a default program of life.

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Why did Yudhishthira gamble everything? Why did Sri Krishna, who was physically present as an Avatar, allow him to do that? How can he be considered the paragon of Dharma? I just cannot understand how a man like Yudhishthira could put everything, including his wife, on the gambling tablešŸ™„?

Yudhishthiraā€™s situation shows that even a man of virtues can make errors and mistakes. Great individuals can commit great errors. Yudhishthira made a significant mistake

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The Divine has created countless galaxies, universes, and billions of stars with planets, yet only EarthšŸŒ has human life. Everything changes outside Earth’s atmosphere, like the lack of sufficient oxygen. Why does life exist only here, and that too in such an imperfect forms? Is it part of a greater plan, or is it simply a mystery beyond understanding?

Yes, earth is a very special place that has been formed for a specific Divine Purpose. You may call it a laboratory of evolution, the

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Before coming to the Mother, I used to give my everything to my friends around me even at the expense of myself. However, I always have given my all to these friends, and yet when I needed them most, the majority were not there for me. The girl I considered my best friend literally does nothing for me, even on my birthday. For a while I thought that it was because she just didnā€™t know how to express but yet she does so much for my other friends. So clearly she can but she doesnā€™t want to for me. This broke my heart. I know expectations spoil love, and I need to purify it, but itā€™s still hurtful to see. Now some new friends are slowly coming into my life, but my closest friends in the past are those whom have hurt me quite hard a few times and now I just donā€™t even see the point in making new friends. For me, Mother, Sri Aurobindo and my sister give me all the friendship I need. But even in the Ashram, there were beautiful friendships. But now šŸ˜”

The urge to be alone, the dropping off of old friends, the inner distancing from old ties, the new preferences indicating progress in different dimensions

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Many times I feel a burden with my relationship with my sibling, though he is an middle aged adult, my parents treat him like a child and they expect me to do so, our relationship is one sided one as I can hardly can rely on him, where else everything I am expected to do for him. Here I am not complaining as I donā€™t feel itā€™s right to constantly protect and spoil someone like a baby when I do not do that same things for my own childrenšŸ™„, how can I manage this as all this hinders in my work and my purpose of life?Ā 

Relationships need to be nurtured from both the sides, otherwise it is not a relationship but a sacrifice. And sacrifice of this kind, done out

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Why do one feels a sense of burden always? I really don’t know if its a general pattern with all specially with my teen that I feel very confused or its specific to me… I see a conflict with my child most of the days… her soul and mind seems to be of a 20 yr old.. the way she analyses sometimes, speaks with clarity feels awww. On the other side her vital, its demands, peer group influence is of a teenager… there is a fight in her and she feesl very angry, worthless, scared of that she would be nothing and no one would know her etc and imposes undue pressure onto her…… and feels exhausted … she can’t be consistent with things, does things when she feels like and knows that is not good and then she will over analyze it and gets into criticism. How to help her out of thisšŸ˜„? What ever we do seems to be of little help as she has a habit of self induce pressure and can’t deliver things.

The sense of burden is common to all thinking human beings. There are those who do not think much and their life is confined either

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