Isn’t it Adharma to suppress my inner call just for the ignorance of my parents?Is this Hindutva? Aren’t we Hindus fearless… Is running after a job the goal of life? Everyone tell me to obey parents, and I do so many times just for the sake of harmony, but burying my thoughts? Is it love? What if I don’t want to get married? What if I don’t find a partner that really suits me ? Will I be forced to get married to anyone for the sake of their fulfillment of a dream which has no basis? Just a societal compulsion? Will this shape my life? I’m so hesitant to even tell them about this… I know they will make a chaos out of it!
Reading Sri Aurobindo is giving my life a new turn, I don’t want to spoil this for the sake of a job. And Is it really necessary to be Satvik in nature to everyone everytime? Is everyone deserving of that? Sometimes they deserve a reply! Don’t they? If No, what will be my own self? Which is a product or other’s opinions? I won’t continue this legacy of accepting what is said just because the parents always want our good!
One doesn’t become a Hindu just by being born in a Hindu family. One should be a dwij, twice born, born into the spiritual life to be a true Hindu. Otherwise one is just part of an unthinking humanity, religious beliefs notwithstanding.
Of course one should question. The Hindu culture is built on questions. Some of the best Upanishads and the Gita itself is the result of questions.
Certainly one should assert your urge to go with your swadharma. But one can be firm and forceful without being angry. Yes you must follow your swadharma. But is it really just the parents or something else stopping you? Look within carefully as there are interesting discoveries to be made. For very often we transfer our own fears to others whereas it is we who need to summon up the courage to live by the truth of our being.
Affectionately,
Alok Da
