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Relationships

But I don’t know how to tackle/handle it. Really doubt I can stop it. It is almost to the point of obsession in a weird, funny way. What’s the best course of action? To create the illusion that the person is as good as me, maybe. Copying actions superficially without the underlying values/principles/ethics. Not inspired. Only for convenience/gain, I feel. 🌱✨

I am not sure if copying or imitating someone is simply an obsession. One should discover oneself rather than imitate. Each of us has something

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Growing up, I always felt that sex was something that should happen after marriage. But honestly, it was never really about traditional or moral beliefs for me. It was more because I have been doing sadhana of the Mother and Sri Aurobindo, and somewhere within me, I always wondered—why should an emotion like lust or sexual desire come into this? 💞🪷 […]

These are three different things that must be seen each in its own right.

Firstly, sex and yoga: as far as most yogas are concerned,

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Alok Da, I have got attached to someone after a physical intimacy (kind of night stands – about 4-5) but he is not. how to handle it. Actually I thought I am in love with him…so I allowed all that to happen…else i happened to be someone who wouldn’t let anyone touch me. What should I do? I am afraid of conveying my feelings to him as I know he is not going to reciprocate. I am just always craving his proximity, which i know is my problem.. How can I be at peace?? I want to detach myself from those feelings i have towards him?

What has happened has happened. It serves no purpose looking back and feeling bad. Life gives several learning lessons. This is one of them and

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Alok da, I’ve been reading the message that you gave me and the Mother’s message as well, repeatedly; it soothes me and calms me down. But lately I feel so blinded and clouded by my thoughts and emotions that I’m not able to make the right decision, act in the right manner, and see things clearly. 🙍🏻‍♀️❤️‍🩹🦋[…]

You don’t need to join an Ashram to end this suffering which is primarily due to a gross mismatch between mutual expectations. Not going into

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I’ve been trying to develop a healthy outlook on the dynamics of man-woman relationships in the midst of a lot of mutually contradictory advice from parents, friends, and other parties. As of late, I started to investigate the old and still popular idea of the man being the dominant side of the relationship, with the woman submitting to his will and being obedient to him. […]💑👨👩‍🦰👐

The idea of male dominance is outdated and outrightly childish. Men and women are and should be equal partners. In fact if one is to

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