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We are a family of two brothers and one elder sister. Since our childhood, our parents have inspired all of us to develop faith and devotion towards the Mother and Sri Aurobindo. As time passed and our understanding of life evolved, our faith sometimes grew stronger and sometimes became weaker. 🏡🙏🏻 […]

I completely understand your situation. Unfortunately it is far too common and a problem quite universally. An ancient saying goes that children of the same

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I am currently 29 years old and will soon turn 30. I have been looking for a life partner who can also be my best friend—someone who is understanding, supportive, and open-minded. It is not that I am not receiving marriage proposals, but I am hesitant because I do not want to end up with someone who is narrow-minded, rigid, or overly orthodox. 💞🌱 […]

Marriage, whether love or arranged is a blind date. It is because life of does not come in standard formats. There are invariable challenges through

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Alok da, I wish I could ask this of you in person and I really miss being in your presence at this time, as it made me feel healed the very instant. This is the point when everything in my life seems to be falling apart. My family is facing a financial crisis; I’m putting in efforts to solve that. 🌅💛[…]

I understand the challenges you are going through. Probably the anger that rises towards your friend is simply a compounding effect. When things are difficult

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Namaste Sir. If, in a relationship like marriage, there is no mutual respect for each other, what should be its fate? Marriage seems like a compromise, a cage, a dependency for the child’s future. I always pray to my mother to help me overcome such dependency. When bitterness overrides love, life searches only for escape. 💗🌿

A marraige that does not fulfil certain basic conditions is not a marraige at all but a forced togetherness for both. Love and mutual respect

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But I don’t know how to tackle/handle it. Really doubt I can stop it. It is almost to the point of obsession in a weird, funny way. What’s the best course of action? To create the illusion that the person is as good as me, maybe. Copying actions superficially without the underlying values/principles/ethics. Not inspired. Only for convenience/gain, I feel. 🌱✨

I am not sure if copying or imitating someone is simply an obsession. One should discover oneself rather than imitate. Each of us has something

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Growing up, I always felt that sex was something that should happen after marriage. But honestly, it was never really about traditional or moral beliefs for me. It was more because I have been doing sadhana of the Mother and Sri Aurobindo, and somewhere within me, I always wondered—why should an emotion like lust or sexual desire come into this? 💞🪷 […]

These are three different things that must be seen each in its own right.

Firstly, sex and yoga: as far as most yogas are concerned,

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