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Marraiges are of different types and different levels. The lowest is based on pure physical-vital attraction and an affinity of sensations. Higher than that is

Do relationships get better, Alok da? Or is it best not to indulge in what hurt you again and maintain a healthy distance? 💞🫂🌼👣

May 14, 2026

Yes, they get better if you lower the expectations and keep a healthy distance. It is good to respect each other’s sensibility and not say

A boy has approached me again. He had 3 years ago too. Then things didn’t work out. Is he right for me? How do you know he is right for me? Spiritually an advanced soul?💍💒👩‍❤️‍👨

May 13, 2026

Spiritual advancement is not an indicator of compatibility or harmony. What brings true harmony and happiness in a relationship is true love and that is

How do we know we are in love with someone enough to spend a life with them? That they are right for us and it’s in line with our divine self. Also, How to navigate conflict. Align differences. How to be sure. There is uncertainty always. ❤️🥰💖

May 13, 2026

The sure sign of love is the urge to give oneself to the person we love. It is not want or craving or desire that

My relationship with my parents have been really harsh and distant these days. Both of our beliefs seem to clash and I really want them to let go of the fear and material beliefs they hold but due to my stubbornness of making them understand and theirs of keeping the belief we fight a lot and they feel like I am disrespecting them and things don’t ever seem to fall in place.👨‍👩‍👧⛈️😑

May 13, 2026

It is very difficult to explain one’s own beliefs to anyone. These elements are like personal treasure and sharing them with others, especially those who

Should I listen to the inner voice of my heart and what its telling me? What’s coming to me in the meditations. No matter how illogical in terms of real external world it may seem. Fanciful…I dont know if I should go ahead and jump in this relationship?🧩💞🤝

May 11, 2026

The heart has wings no doubt but the flight must be controlled and directed by the will. In ordinary life it is the mental will,

What if the person pushes you to see your own flaws and work on them and be better, grow spiritually, not maybe in the nicest way or knowingly but sub consciously? As the soul within feels awakened.. somehow knows.. 💞💍⚓🗝️

May 11, 2026

It is never a good way to show the real or unreal defects of others. A relationship should be based on showing or rather bringing

Alok Da, I have been involved with a married man who has a child. For three years, he has promised to leave his wife, but it has become clear that he has no intention of doing so. Now, he says he will marry me legally but also wants to continue his past life. I am becoming very insecure; what is the right thing to do in this situation?💔⚖️😪

May 11, 2026

It is not about right and wrong. It is simply this fact that no one can leave a child behind and get remarried to someone

What happens when someone starts a Marriage based on a lie? 👰🏼💍🧑🏼‍💼🥀😕

May 9, 2026

Lie is never a good thing, least of all as a basis to start a marriage. Marriage especially is based upon trust and a lie

(a) I haven’t been perfect either – so how do I know if I wasn’t affected by the hostile forces too? Was such a step needed? 🍃🙄🙏🏻🌷[…]

April 27, 2026

It is difficult to speak for an individual as the reason differs from person to person. But in general one can say that the hostile

My mom is an absolutely arrogant, egoistic person who looks down on people. Maybe pride in her wealth, I don’t know. Messy with me, too. How do I deal with her? Extremely loud…. 👩🏼‍🦳😣🙏🏻🌼🍃

April 24, 2026

We don’t need to deal with everyone and everything. Most of the time ignoring is the best and most powerful method. It means doing what

Life has turned upside down in the past few years. It started with a trivial argument at home, which escalated and eventually led to marital separation. I haven’t seen my spouse and kid for almost a year. 😣👨🏻‍👩🏻‍👧🏻‍👦🏻🌼✨[…]

April 22, 2026

These things happen for a number of reasons that go far beyond the trivial incidence you mention. Some may call it destiny related to past

Alok da, Human beings have this desire and ideal of unconditional love. But as they grow up, everyone comes to see that despite all the preachings about human values, emotions and whatnot, every relationship is conditional and comes with an exchange value and with the frustration of not finding it. 👨🏼💔👩🏼🥀🌼[…]

April 20, 2026

Human beings are very limited in their present state of evolution. They don’t have the true knowledge nor the true power. Above all they don’t

How can I protect myself from someone’s blackmail? I mean, I know my father’s nature. Even after telling him everything and explaining things, he’ll use the same tactic: “I’ll kill myself if you don’t get married…” etc. Sometimes he even hurts himself. How can I stop all this? This isn’t right, is it? 😥🥀❤️‍🔥🍃

April 11, 2026

Nobody can stop anyone and nobody is responsible for anyone else. You are responsible only for your own life. And you should decide based on

I don’t know if my family members don’t want to understand. He went to see the boy without telling me and hasn’t told me anything about that till now. What will I do if he marries me without my consent? 👩🏼💍🥀✨

April 6, 2026

You have to simply refuse, persistently. Nobody can marry someone against their wishes. And if you do not have the courage to stand for what

I have been a student of Sri Aurobindo Integral School and have been listening to your videos. I always aspire before the Mother to be a True child of Her. 👱🏼‍♂️❤️‍🔥👱🏼‍♀️🌹💍[…]

April 5, 2026

There is no such rule for the girl to be younger than the boy for marriage. It is mainly a social conditioning, partly for progeny

What is the best way to manage people who contact us from the past? Via e-mail or WhatsApp? They may not be very Spiritual. 📧📞🫡🦋🌷

March 28, 2026

Whether from the past or the present, one should be one’s true self and live according to the truth one has seen and is experiencing

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