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Why do one feels a sense of burden always? I really don’t know if its a general pattern with all specially with my teen that I feel very confused or its specific to me… I see a conflict with my child most of the days… her soul and mind seems to be of a 20 yr old.. the way she analyses sometimes, speaks with clarity feels awww. On the other side her vital, its demands, peer group influence is of a teenager… there is a fight in her and she feesl very angry, worthless, scared of that she would be nothing and no one would know her etc and imposes undue pressure onto her…… and feels exhausted … she can’t be consistent with things, does things when she feels like and knows that is not good and then she will over analyze it and gets into criticism. How to help her out of this😥? What ever we do seems to be of little help as she has a habit of self induce pressure and can’t deliver things.

January 12, 2025

The sense of burden is common to all thinking human beings. There are those who do not think much and their life is confined either

Krishna agreeing not to fight in the battle? Why so? He was God himself so why he agreed not to lift any weapon 🙄?

January 8, 2025

The Mahabharata war was primarily a war between the two Kuru families. Since Sri Krishna was related to both the Kauravas and the Pandavas. Sri

Is it really wrong to love and feel attached to two people at the same time? While I understand that, from a moral, social, and character perspective, it might be viewed negatively, how can one navigate such a situation😥?

January 2, 2025

To reduce the increasing complexity of life to a single simple rule book may be convenient for the small and narrow unprogressive mind of man

How do you best prepare for the new year☀️?

January 1, 2025

The Mother would usher the New Year with Her music and a message. It is a beautiful way to start the New Year this way…

Alok da, kids today don’t follow any rules, don’t listen to anyone, If this is the case where will the order of society go😱 ?

January 1, 2025

Yes, it is so because the whole society is undergoing a massive transformational shift. Sri Aurobindo called it as The Hour of God. The Mother

Can you tell us a little about Sri Aurobindo centres 🙏?

December 26, 2024

Sri Aurobindo’s Yoga is not just an individual yoga done for individual salvation by seekers who progressively withdraw from the world in a silent and

I always feel a urge to gather few people in my college and start a study circle. BUT…I always get 2 feelings, Am I ready for these kind of things? I am afraid of the ego coming in and disturbing everything inside me😬.

December 22, 2024

Ego doesn’t leave easily. If one waits for the ego to be dissolved before one takes up work for the Divine then one may never

I had read The Mother’s answer to a question and recently in one video you too had mentioned it that physical difference in male and female will not be there in the new world. The LGBT community that we are either seeing more and more or noticing more in recent days, is that a precursor to it🙄?

November 26, 2024

The LGBT community rights and activism are more around the sexual and gender orientation. It is understood that in any civilised country all citizens should

Sometimes we see how very common people around us progress in a very short span of time. That looks like a fairy tale. Why do such things happen😪? I know these are exceptions but still what could be the reasons for these?

November 15, 2024

How do we define common? We think that being born in poverty or a modest family with not much support or even not performing exceptionally

These days, due to negative news, parents are often afraid to send their daughters far from home, and even if they do, they remain constantly worried. Is their fear justified😠?

November 10, 2024

This fear or rather apprehension is not only natural and normal but actually a protective reflex in parents, mostly in mothers as a maternal instinct.

I was just now thinking about a question that was posted on this forum about turning points in wars. You mentioned three Avtars whose forces were working during these wars against evil forces. Right now what is going on with Israil and Gaza, what are your thoughts about it? I agree what Hamas did last year was horrific, but Israil’s response to this is way more than horrific😱! Netanyahu wants to eradicate Hamas, understood, but what he has done under that guise is horrific, and now he wants to do the same with Lebanon! I am born and grew up in India, I know the history of muslims, but is every muslim bad and deserves to die? When all this started last year I was totally on the side of Israel, but now, I have my my doubts. Any way, now my question is how do you deal with this spiritually?

November 3, 2024

Men are puppets in the hands of forces that act from behind in creation. Some of these forces that especially work behind in war situations

In earlier time I was feeling devotion, faith, gratitude and surrender to The Mother. My mind was constantly remembering her. But now that isn’t happening. Mind is creating doubt, vital being feel restless, a lot of ambition and sexual desire arises and they give pain in my lower abdominal part. I see that doubt and desire coming from outside constantly and with offering it also coming. Now I feel that this is not the problem of my nature and and other, it is the whole universal problem. What should our right attitude to passes through this stages. And how long the battle will occur and what is the next thing will happen after this stages 🙄?

November 2, 2024

These things or rather this phase comes to every sadhak especially if one has taken to the Yoga at a young age when the vital

Correct me if I am wrong, I believe there is no concept of Dharma in the west so there is no concept of Adharma thus everyone has become selfish and they want to do what they feel like basically follow their impulses, so how can we save India from this false sense of Freedom, how to teach children and how to help the west out with our Indian ideals🇮🇳?

October 24, 2024

Yes the idea of freedom means different things to the East and the West. In the Western context there is the liberal idea of doing

Who invented the spoon🥄? I do not like to eat with the spoon and I like eating with my hands and then everyone tells me to eat with the spoon because of table manners specially when people are around or I am in a restaurant

October 13, 2024

The spoon is a gift of the British to the Indian people. In principle there is nothing wrong in eating with hands provided we keep

Your talk ” Transformation: Process and Resistance”, wherein you have mentioned…ceiling limit, that ceiling limit is decided by prototype of form in occult world,…blue print 🗺comes from the over mind. Could you make more clear.

October 8, 2024

Yes the ceiling limit is for each species. It is like a magic circle or a fence of ignorance drawn around each type. It’s purpose

I live in Germany for work, and at times when I am on the surface mind or outer consciousness, I feel a collective force (something that has some momentum) that’s fueled by rage. It is some kind of vital energy, especially I see teenagers becoming instruments of such things. I have come across people who encourage others to channel this rage and anger because they call it sacred rage. I don’t see it as sacred at all, I think it arises because people here don’t listen fully and they engage on a partial level with everything in their lives. Is this what you call wokeism? Even learned people here encourage such acts. Especially, I am tired of the feminist ideas here and the feminist here are some of the most questionable people I have ever met (there is no real understanding but a fueled drive based on some ideas). Aren’t these the distorted old energies😨? Can these destructive behaviors actually establish harmony? Or, is there a misunderstanding from my side? It seems in the history of Europe, wars have always preceded the collective change. Is this the only way for real change? Can’t we grow organically to live a truthful, harmonious and a divine life? Can’t we take the road of a sapphire tale? Doesn’t this mean a lack of sincerity in us somewhere? Why are we so short-sighted? I had tried to engage with people on this before, but it bears no fruition. How to protect ourselves from such things that are prevalent in the environmental consciousness?

October 6, 2024

Your intuitive feeling is quite right. Europe is going through a great turmoil and if one may say so a slow degeneration of whatever values

What is the point of having children? Is there a higher purpose of becoming a Mother? Or simply for the joy of raising children👩‍👧‍👦?

October 2, 2024

The need to have children is simply an instinct provided by nature to propagate the species. It is not indispensable and indeed more and more

What is Swadharma? How to help a child find his Swadharma? After a certain age does it even make sense to find one’s Swadharma🌈?

September 28, 2024

Normally, Swadharma is entangled with desires and ambitions, so we can’t easily make it out. By the time you get a job, you may have

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