Does the Soul choose the parents, or do the parents choose the child?
The psyche of a child begins to be influenced by the mother right from the point of conception. It is the point of intention that creates a kind of atmosphere around the mother to which the soul gets drawn. This intention further begins to shape the baby in the womb so that the child begins to develop almost as an extension of the parents, especially their unfulfilled wishes, hopes, desires, tendencies, etc. This continues during childhood until adolescence, when children generally revolt, giving a chance to change and reorient their tracks.
In simple words, at this stage and for long afterwards, your thoughts, feelings, hopes, ambitions, experiences, aspirations, frustrations, anguish, ambitions, anxieties, etc., are getting transmitted into the child as a subtle substance and moulding the child apart and along with the heredity and genetics that mould his body. The things you experience inwardly, the books you read, the people you meet, the interactions you have, in short, all that you go through is also becoming part of the child’s endowment as he extends in you and shares the same body.
It is a great responsibility, therefore, to be a mother. Now it is upto you how you use this knowledge and turn it into practical aspects of parenting. This is the key. It means read good uplifting books, spend time in beautiful contemplation, beautiful music. Talk to the child. He is listening in the womb.
As to the mother and the child, each other, while the baby is in the womb and getting formed, there is a truth in it. Your atmosphere will draw a soul type by affinity and it will also mould the nature of the child. Equally developed souls do choose their parents by a certain kind of affinity of soul aspiration and the kind of experiences the soul wants to go through. You can, of course, consciously pray for a child or even imagine his being, physically and psychologically. It does help.
The subject itself is very vast and you will find talks by the Mother on this subject in Volume 12 of her collected works. You will also find several talks on auromaa.org on the issue of parenting. If you have specific questions, I will be happy to answer.
Affectionately,
Alok Da
