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I am 45 years old. My father passed away in 2021. When he was bedridden and unable to walk, my sister-in-law treated him very poorly. My brother’s behavior was equally bad; he would visit like a ‘visiting doctor’ for just a few minutes and stay away so that my father wouldn’t even see him. Even when I told him that Father was calling for him, he refused to come.πŸ’”πŸ›€οΈβ†”οΈ

I completely understand your pain. As this is growing more common and since we cannot change people, the only workable solution is to have proper

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How can an unsuccessful marriage where the aim of one partner is to lead the spiritual life and the other the life full of desires, be made an opportunity for progress? Sometimes the person who aims at leading the spiritual life is forced to tell a lie to make some compromise or avoid a dispute, despite being fully aware that speaking untruth is a stumbling block on the path of sadhana. How can this situation be obviated?Β πŸ§©πŸ”€πŸ™…β†”οΈ

If such is the case then marraige is a facade and unlikely to be a help for the progress of either partner. A commonality of

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Arranged marriages are definitely outdated now right? Marrying for money position status security family – that doesn’t bring happiness or work anymore na – unless only chasing social society material fanciness. It’s rarely in today’s time day and age will lead to love right?Β Or understanding. Based on survival principlesΒ . Not really on matching of 2 people rightπŸ€πŸ‘΅πŸ‘΄πŸ‘

Marraiges are of different types and different levels. The lowest is based on pure physical-vital attraction and an affinity of sensations. Higher than that is

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My relationship with my parents have been really harsh and distant these days. Both of our beliefs seem to clash and I really want them to let go of the fear and material beliefs they hold but due to my stubbornness of making them understand and theirs of keeping the belief we fight a lot and they feel like I am disrespecting them and things don’t ever seem to fall in place.πŸ‘¨β€πŸ‘©β€πŸ‘§β›ˆοΈπŸ˜‘

It is very difficult to explain one’s own beliefs to anyone. These elements are like personal treasure and sharing them with others, especially those who

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Alok Da, I have been involved with a married man who has a child. For three years, he has promised to leave his wife, but it has become clear that he has no intention of doing so. Now, he says he will marry me legally but also wants to continue his past life. I am becoming very insecure; what is the right thing to do in this situation?πŸ’”βš–οΈπŸ˜ͺ

It is not about right and wrong. It is simply this fact that no one can leave a child behind and get remarried to someone

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Alok da, Human beings have this desire and ideal of unconditional love. But as they grow up, everyone comes to see that despite all the preachings about human values, emotions and whatnot, every relationship is conditional and comes with an exchange value and with the frustration of not finding it. πŸ‘¨πŸΌπŸ’”πŸ‘©πŸΌπŸ₯€πŸŒΌ[…]

Human beings are very limited in their present state of evolution. They don’t have the true knowledge nor the true power. Above all they don’t

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How can I protect myself from someone’s blackmail? I mean, I know my father’s nature. Even after telling him everything and explaining things, he’ll use the same tactic: “I’ll kill myself if you don’t get married…” etc. Sometimes he even hurts himself. How can I stop all this? This isn’t right, is it? πŸ˜₯πŸ₯€β€οΈβ€πŸ”₯πŸƒ

Nobody can stop anyone and nobody is responsible for anyone else. You are responsible only for your own life. And you should decide based on

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