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In my college, I have a friend who is a good person, but she often speaks in a low-energy, negative way—mainly complaining, criticizing, or focusing on things she wants but doesn’t have. I’ve tried explaining that this kind of conversation affects me and makes me uncomfortable, but there hasn’t been much change. Even after keeping some distance, she doesn’t seem to understand. Whenever we meet, either I end up hurting her by not engaging much, or she starts the same low-energy conversations again. I don’t want to hurt her, but I’m not sure how to handle the situation.🙄🗣️🙅‍♀️☁️

You can try explaining to her that a critical negative attitude towards others harms both. It only strengthens this tendency. Everyone has their faults and it is best not to complaint of things we cannot change. In any case, in human relationships, it is best to connect with the best part of another and not pay attention to the real or unreal faults. But it is unlikely that explaining will much help her. People who are overcritical of others often do so out of a compensatory mechanism to cover up their sense of inferiority. It will be best therefore to either show her her own beautiful parts and strengths while ignoring this critical attitude. 

She may feel bad if you don’t much pay attention but if alongside you show her the positive things in her, she will surely slowly understand your good intent.

Affectionately,

Alok Da

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