Wanted to know how to build a harmonious relationship with parents. This is for me and my wife. We have different value system than our parents. Even different aspirations. But, we are also not detached, very much emotionally attached. We live in different cities, but whenever we visit, it causes a lot of disharmony. There is happiness to meet, spend time, build memories. But, there is an underlying disharmony. They have their strong opinions and they impose that constantly. 😥[conti]

Cant seem to think of a proactive solution. Also dont feel comfortable not doing anything about this challenge.

Yes it is quite challenging partly due to the generation gap and partly due to a tectonic shift in the social order itself. Trying to explain your viewpoint usually doesn’t help. Best is to avoid discussions or keep them to a minimum. Neither try nor expect them to understand or change. Spend time in some common happy activities such as preparing meals or going out together. Express care and love and respect but draw a line when it comes to living your life in the way you feel is best. That is all one can do. Leave the rest to God’s all-seeing eyes.

Affectionately,

Alok Da

Sir, on the morning of mahalaya many people goes to riverside for ‘tarpan’ ritual. Which is to offer water towards the ancestors. Sir , can this ritual be explained from the perspective of Sri Aurobindo’s philosophy🤨?

October 15, 2025

These rituals are performed for several reasons.

1. It is a way of paying homage and remaining connected to the family roots.

2. From the occult point of view they might help in clearing the earth atmosphere a little bit from the presence of several tiny elemental energies released from the dead that float in the…

Why are most Hindu goddesses😇 depicted with three eyes and a crescent moon, like Shiva—the god of tamas and destruction? Even images of goddesses of light and wisdom, such as Gayatri and Gauri, have three eyes and a crescent moon, like Shiva.

October 15, 2025

Many of these depictions are not necessarily by yogis and seers who alone can see and discern the form of gods. Most images are rather made by devotees who have received some touch or influence of the higher…

Sir please suggest the sequence in which one must read Sri Aurobindo’s books from easy to difficult. What should be the first book to read🤔?

October 15, 2025

First one should read Works of the Mother, especially Volumes 1, 2 and 3. One may like to read all the other volumes in which case one should just go ahead reading them….

ASK ALOK DA

AT THE FEET OF THE MOTHER

Since we visit every 2-3 months, it keeps happening. There is a possibility that we would need to move back to the same city (separate but nearby homes). And we worry that this will take us away from our aspiration.

Cant seem to think of a proactive solution. Also dont feel comfortable not doing anything about this challenge.

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Sir, on the morning of mahalaya many people goes to riverside for ‘tarpan’ ritual. Which is to offer water towards the ancestors. Sir , can this ritual be explained from the perspective of Sri Aurobindo’s philosophy🤨?

Why are most Hindu goddesses😇 depicted with three eyes and a crescent moon, like Shiva—the god of tamas and destruction? Even images of goddesses of light and wisdom, such as Gayatri and Gauri, have three eyes and a crescent moon, like Shiva.

Sir please suggest the sequence in which one must read Sri Aurobindo’s books from easy to difficult. What should be the first book to read🤔?