Live in the wideness. When we are identified with the body as the self and our mind is centered around small things such as physical desires and preoccupied with outer circumstances and conditions then the consciousness narrows down and enters into a hole. It also becomes vulnerable to all the surface storms and gets easily disturbed by outer things such as changes in weather, human behavior, even petty situations like food that is not according to one’s taste and so on and so forth. But the deeper we live and the wider we grow in consciousness the freer we become and develop a natural mastery over outer circumstances.
So we must practice living within by concentrating in our heart on the Divine Presence within us and do exercises of widening such as imagining the star studded sky or the ocean. Books, good uplifting beautiful books are another simple way of withdrawing within away from the surfaces of life as they take us into the world of ideas. Similarly staying busy with work especially work not done for one’s selfish gains and personal benefits is also a simple remedy to step out of the smallness created by the ego.
Above all not to think about or look at others but mind one’s own business. What others do or do not do is their problem. Our focus should be on the task given to us and the attitude with which we do it.
2. How can I learn to stay calm, manage my emotions better, and not let little problems disturb my peace of mind?
Try to live within. Learn to step back and see how little outer things matter, how transient and unimportant are these appearances that pass away. Seek what is lasting, permanent, true while removing much of the unnecessary clutter that unnecessarily occupies our mind space.
Take out a little time and contemplate everyday on the true purpose of your life, on what would give you lasting happiness. Sit quietly and call Peace within you, with the help of a mantra if necessary.
Read good books and do some exercises. The former uplifts the mind while the latter washes away much of the lower energies that circulate around us. Also pick up a hobby and listen to some good music.
Affectionately,
Alok Da
