I have faced failure in 4-5 relationships with women, and it always feels like, in the end, they find a reason to leave me. Despite my efforts to make things work, this recurring pattern has left me deeply hurt, alone, and emotionally broken. There are times when the loneliness becomes unbearable, and I can’t help but wonder if there’s something inherently wrong with me, if I’m destined to face these struggles in relationships, or if I am meant to remain single forever😪.

Growing up, I always felt that sex was something that should happen after marriage. But honestly, it was never really about traditional or moral beliefs for me. It was more because I have been doing sadhana of the Mother and Sri Aurobindo, and somewhere within me, I always wondered—why should an emotion like lust or sexual desire come into this? 💞🪷 […]

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These are three different things that must be seen each in its own right.

Firstly, sex and yoga: as far as most yogas are concerned, including Sri Aurobindo’s Yoga sex is seen as an obstacle. This is not so much because of moral reasons but simply because spiritual life means turning the consciousness and vital energy higher upwards and deeper. Sex, on the other hand pulls it outwards and downwards. This is so because of the pull towards the body. Bodily and vital pleasures are at crossroads with the higher aspiration and spiritual Ananda….

I read the following advice from the Mother to an artist learning to paint: Would you like me to draw birds or animals sometimes? If you like—but drawings from nature are best for learning. I have done this picture without anybody’s help. How is it? Will I be able to learn? ✍️🎨✨ […]

September 18, 2026

Poetry requires an inner hearing, the faculty of inspiration so to say, just as painting requires an inner vision, a faculty that reveals what is hidden in the form. The technique is a framework which can be developed by practice. The inspiration comes through an inner…

I believe that reading The Secret of the Vedas by Sri Aurobindo gives us the real insight into the meaning of the Vedas and nothing more is needed for spiritual practitioners or for those who are looking to gain genuine spiritual insights. 📚🕉️[…]

September 18, 2026

The Secret of the Vedas was my first book too along with The Synthesis of Yoga. While it is no doubt a precious treasure (I had felt floating on cloud nine while reading it), it is certainly not enough for the Integral Yoga. Besides, apart from the conceptual understanding, the actual details of the practice for today’s practitioners is …

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