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How do I get rid of jealousy🤢, it’s a really big problem for me. But I don’t want it. I tried searching through Mother’s works but can’t seem to find anything major. I know I should keep offering, but what effort am I to put in from my part ? When it comes it’s so overwhelming and no matter how much I try to step back, fight it with reason or simply reject it, it’s not working. I find myself comparing myself constantly, wanting what others have, even though I hate the thoughts. As far as I can remember, since I was a child this has been a problem for me and it’s grappling.

Jealousy comes due to a feeling of inadequacy within oneself. As a result we keep comparing ourselves with others with the attendant results of ambition, jealousy, and feelings of inferiority.  At the root of it is the sense of inferiority that leads to comparisons and thereby feel either vainly superior or else jealous. 

The remedy lies first of all in accepting ourselves as we are and know that each one is unique and different. And then to surrender oneself to the Divine with a prayer that may we be what She wants me to be. Along with this to trust that whatever the Divine has given us, in whatever position the Divine has placed is best for our growth, to shift the focus from what we have or have not outwardly to how much we are one with Her. It is the growing inner closeness with the Divine that alone can eliminate and annihilate these enemies of our soul and replace them with wideness, generosity and nobility of temperament,  and the spirit of renunciation and sacrifice in which these forces cannot stay for long. 

Affectionately,

Alok Da

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