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Home » Life Problems And Psychological Difficulties » I am in a very trapped situation😩, I love someone and he also loves me but he is married and now has a son too, my family came to know about it, he tells me that you will commit a sin, you will have to face the curse of that boy, on top of this I love him a lot but I am not able to accept his son, I am not able to understand what is the true Dharma for me, I am praying to The Mother again and again but am not getting any answer.

I am in a very trapped situation😩, I love someone and he also loves me but he is married and now has a son too, my family came to know about it, he tells me that you will commit a sin, you will have to face the curse of that boy, on top of this I love him a lot but I am not able to accept his son, I am not able to understand what is the true Dharma for me, I am praying to The Mother again and again but am not getting any answer.

Love has little to do with wants and cravings and desires. These things distort the true movement of love and hence almost invariably lead to unhappiness after the initial phase of attraction is over. Love implies complete and unconditional acceptance of those whom your loved one loves, be it son or daughter or wife or husband or anyone else because they are an integral part of him. One doesn’t love in parts, isn’t it?

Therefore the first thing to do is to become conscious of your true feelings and their origin. In a complicated situation like this it is best not to cross a line because sooner or later it will create suffering in the people associated with the person you love and it is never good to snatch happiness or build happiness on the suffering of others. Best to gradually disengage and have the joy of loving from a distance rather than rushing headlong into his life. Allow time to work through it all and let things unfold to see how deep and true this feeling is and whether it lasts long enough or not.

Affectionately,

Alok Da

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We recently brought a Shivling from my in-law’s place as they are not able to take proper care of it. My in-laws used to worship it with elaborate rituals. We have also been advised to follow it. To be honest, I don’t have much faith in their long rituals which were advised by our family priest. To me a simple ritual with faith & devotion is what is actually needed in worship🤨.

July 1, 2025

I understand your situation and have experienced this with other families as well. Ritual involves a,material and a spiritual aspect. The material side is to give bath (wash) the Shivalingam daily and keep it in a …

Dear Alok da I am a woman so it’s very easy to look at Divine as a lover… but how can a man relate to Divine like a lover ? Like when Sri Aurobindo writes the poem on Krishna I can relate feel Krishna in that form but what about a man? This was just silly curious question but thought to ask🙂.

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This is something that i struggled with for a while as to how could I see the Beloved in the Mother or bring before Her all my different parts for the needed change and transformation. Soon I realised that it …

Last night, I had a dream where I saw that my father and I were getting a tubewell installed, and at the end, when we inserted the pipe, a lot of water came out and it was sparkling. Then, Grandpa came and asked why we had the tubewell installed, saying that the water is salty. When we drank it, the taste was a bit salty, so I said at least the water would be useful. Later, I saw that my brother and I were checking the car’s headlight, but it didn’t light up. So, I said, doesn’t the light work? What’s the problem? He said it’s fine, and when I turned it on, the light was very dim. Then, we removed the mirror from the headlight and saw that it was giving off very little light. What could be the symbolic meaning of this dream🤔?

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I don’t think it has any deeper symbolic meaning. Looks more like a dip into the subconscient where the water is not tasty and the lights are dim. But it could also be…

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Dear Alok da I am a woman so it’s very easy to look at Divine as a lover… but how can a man relate to Divine like a lover ? Like when Sri Aurobindo writes the poem on Krishna I can relate feel Krishna in that form but what about a man? This was just silly curious question but thought to ask🙂.