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I am in a very trapped situation😩, I love someone and he also loves me but he is married and now has a son too, my family came to know about it, he tells me that you will commit a sin, you will have to face the curse of that boy, on top of this I love him a lot but I am not able to accept his son, I am not able to understand what is the true Dharma for me, I am praying to The Mother again and again but am not getting any answer.

Love has little to do with wants and cravings and desires. These things distort the true movement of love and hence almost invariably lead to unhappiness after the initial phase of attraction is over. Love implies complete and unconditional acceptance of those whom your loved one loves, be it son or daughter or wife or husband or anyone else because they are an integral part of him. One doesn’t love in parts, isn’t it? 

Therefore the first thing to do is to become conscious of your true feelings and their origin. In a complicated situation like this it is best not to cross a line because sooner or later it will create suffering in the people associated with the person you love and it is never good to snatch happiness or build happiness on the suffering of others. Best to gradually disengage and have the joy of loving from a distance rather than rushing headlong into his life. Allow time to work through it all and let things unfold to see how deep and true this feeling is and whether it lasts long enough or not.

Affectionately,

Alok Da

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