The fear of losing someone through death is largely due to ignorance about the nature of death as well as attachment that comes naturally to those who live largely in the sentiments and emotions. The ignorance can, to an extent be got rid of by reading and reflecting upon the truth of death, its hidden reality and what it means. Very simply, as of now, it is a needed transition for the soul as it moves towards new experiences needed for its growth. The sentimental attachment can be removed by understanding that to want to hold back someone always for oneself is to prevent and obstruct their progress. Therefore we should replace our ignorant attachment with the truth of love which always wants the good of the person we love rather than our own emotional satisfaction. Of course the spiritual way is to practise discernment and inner detachment to master the first rush of impulse and emotion. With practice one starts living within and is no more at the mercy of the senses and feelings. Of course the best way is to see the Divine in all things and surrender to His Will accepting the gains and losses as part of His plan and needed steps of the journey.
Affectionately,
Alok Da
