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In today’s world, it’s not uncommon for men to not have any friends. My mother says that most women have friends, but a lot of men have no friends. Why is this the case? What is the secret of friendship, and how can one make genuine friends🙂?

I think it is a question of temperament. There are men and women with an expansive vital nature, normally called as extroverts who easily make friends. There are others who are shy and avoid people, introverted so to say. These have fewer friends and sometimes can be loners. Genuine friends are of course very rare and it is arranged by destiny rather than by tact. Essentially a lot depends upon the art of conversation, the ability to break the ice and yes, the inbuilt temperament that throws out and receives the vital forces freely circulating the vital energy like money and gossip. There is no need to become like that. Be your true self, that is the best.

Affectionately,

Alok Da

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We recently brought a Shivling from my in-law’s place as they are not able to take proper care of it. My in-laws used to worship it with elaborate rituals. We have also been advised to follow it. To be honest, I don’t have much faith in their long rituals which were advised by our family priest. To me a simple ritual with faith & devotion is what is actually needed in worship🤨.

July 1, 2025

I understand your situation and have experienced this with other families as well. Ritual involves a,material and a spiritual aspect. The material side is to give bath (wash) the Shivalingam daily and keep it in a …

Dear Alok da I am a woman so it’s very easy to look at Divine as a lover… but how can a man relate to Divine like a lover ? Like when Sri Aurobindo writes the poem on Krishna I can relate feel Krishna in that form but what about a man? This was just silly curious question but thought to ask🙂.

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This is something that i struggled with for a while as to how could I see the Beloved in the Mother or bring before Her all my different parts for the needed change and transformation. Soon I realised that it …

Last night, I had a dream where I saw that my father and I were getting a tubewell installed, and at the end, when we inserted the pipe, a lot of water came out and it was sparkling. Then, Grandpa came and asked why we had the tubewell installed, saying that the water is salty. When we drank it, the taste was a bit salty, so I said at least the water would be useful. Later, I saw that my brother and I were checking the car’s headlight, but it didn’t light up. So, I said, doesn’t the light work? What’s the problem? He said it’s fine, and when I turned it on, the light was very dim. Then, we removed the mirror from the headlight and saw that it was giving off very little light. What could be the symbolic meaning of this dream🤔?

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I don’t think it has any deeper symbolic meaning. Looks more like a dip into the subconscient where the water is not tasty and the lights are dim. But it could also be…

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In today’s world, it’s not uncommon for men to not have any friends. My mother says that most women have friends, but a lot of men have no friends. Why is this the case? What is the secret of friendship, and how can one make genuine friends🙂?

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Dear Alok da I am a woman so it’s very easy to look at Divine as a lover… but how can a man relate to Divine like a lover ? Like when Sri Aurobindo writes the poem on Krishna I can relate feel Krishna in that form but what about a man? This was just silly curious question but thought to ask🙂.