Marriages do not work out as we expect them to do because of the gap between the ideal and the strength and sacrifice needed to realise it. This is very much missing today in the fast food and utilitarian culture imported largely from the West. But the Divine is always willing to help us realise the Ideal. He is not the spoilsport to our happiness but the helper and guide and it is only rarely that he does not grant a sincere prayer, and only when He sees the harm that may accrue through it. The reason why relationships end up badly is not God but our incapacity to love. A love full of demands, expectations, wishes and desires based on the need for pleasure or happiness is not so much love but emotional and vital hunger. So too a love calculating gain and loss is a business and a marriage based on social benefits is a transaction. These are as good as failures even if it succeeds by outer standards. So grow in love and try to make it beautiful and sincere. That is all that is needed.
Dada, the pain doesn’t stem from the fact that we aren’t together right now, or from wondering when we will be, or from a desire to satisfy my personal cravings through her company—though those thoughts might exist, they aren’t the source of my anguish. 🥲🌼🦋[…]
July 22, 2026
I understand your pain. But by now you should also understand that this idea of being together, walking upon the path together are all your ideas concealing the vital desires of a happy life of togetherness. They are not her truth at least not yet. It is primarily a vital love, at least from her side, that remains and lasts only as long as the ..
