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It has thus happened that whenever I have prayed for proximal presence of someone or something, I have suffered and regretted…as things have taken ugly turns later on..even it’s said, ” Marriage was erected on the tomb of Love😧” so it’s wise to not get married to the one you love..thus this way it’s not wise to marry at all…also I can easily find many unsuccessful marriages around. So now even if I seek the proximity of my beloved (seek to express my love for him through feelings, words and services) in life but I feel afraid to pray for their proximal presence in my life in anticipation of the bond between us getting ruined if that happens.

Marriages do not work out as we expect them to do because of the gap between the ideal and the strength and sacrifice needed to realise it. This is very much missing today in the fast food and utilitarian culture imported largely from the West. But the Divine is always willing to help us realise the Ideal. He is not the spoilsport to our happiness but the helper and guide and it is only rarely that he does not grant a sincere prayer, and only when He sees the harm that may accrue through it. The reason why relationships end up badly is not God but our incapacity to love. A love full of demands, expectations,  wishes and desires based on the need for pleasure or happiness is not so much love but emotional and vital hunger. So too a love calculating gain and loss is a business and a marriage based on social benefits is a transaction. These are as good as failures even if it succeeds by outer standards. So grow in love and try to make it beautiful and sincere. That is all that is needed.

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