Marriages do not work out as we expect them to do because of the gap between the ideal and the strength and sacrifice needed to realise it. This is very much missing today in the fast food and utilitarian culture imported largely from the West. But the Divine is always willing to help us realise the Ideal. He is not the spoilsport to our happiness but the helper and guide and it is only rarely that he does not grant a sincere prayer, and only when He sees the harm that may accrue through it. The reason why relationships end up badly is not God but our incapacity to love. A love full of demands, expectations, wishes and desires based on the need for pleasure or happiness is not so much love but emotional and vital hunger. So too a love calculating gain and loss is a business and a marriage based on social benefits is a transaction. These are as good as failures even if it succeeds by outer standards. So grow in love and try to make it beautiful and sincere. That is all that is needed.
In one of his letters, Sri Aurobindo says that the mistakes of Thought, Speech, or Action should be kept away and considered something superficial that the Power and Light will deal with and remove. But in ‘The Mother’ book, he specifically says to reject the lower movements. Then, what is the difference between the movement of Aspiration and Rejection? 📖🤔🌷✨
May 7, 2026
It is always best to have the exact quote from Sri Aurobindo. He is very precise with words. Secondly, he has covered each subject from different angles of vision which when read in totality make a complete whole.
Lets take what he writes in the first chapter of The Mother. It is a letter written to a disciple. Here he is giving us a complete overview of the working of the Divine Grace in response to the human aspiration. What he emphasises…
