Marriages do not work out as we expect them to do because of the gap between the ideal and the strength and sacrifice needed to realise it. This is very much missing today in the fast food and utilitarian culture imported largely from the West. But the Divine is always willing to help us realise the Ideal. He is not the spoilsport to our happiness but the helper and guide and it is only rarely that he does not grant a sincere prayer, and only when He sees the harm that may accrue through it. The reason why relationships end up badly is not God but our incapacity to love. A love full of demands, expectations, wishes and desires based on the need for pleasure or happiness is not so much love but emotional and vital hunger. So too a love calculating gain and loss is a business and a marriage based on social benefits is a transaction. These are as good as failures even if it succeeds by outer standards. So grow in love and try to make it beautiful and sincere. That is all that is needed.
Dada, I love reading discourses with disciples; how did some of them go away? To even share a glance with them is a Grace. To know about them is itself a Grace; then why does one get separated or distant? I get scared sometimes: what if my foolishness in dealing with my vices takes me far from them… ☹️🙏🏻🌼🪷
July 30, 2026
Those who went away were those who, despite Sri Aurobindo’s repeated cautions, could not or rather refused to open to The Mother. They did not turn away because they had defects of nature. They went away because they …
