Marriages do not work out as we expect them to do because of the gap between the ideal and the strength and sacrifice needed to realise it. This is very much missing today in the fast food and utilitarian culture imported largely from the West. But the Divine is always willing to help us realise the Ideal. He is not the spoilsport to our happiness but the helper and guide and it is only rarely that he does not grant a sincere prayer, and only when He sees the harm that may accrue through it. The reason why relationships end up badly is not God but our incapacity to love. A love full of demands, expectations, wishes and desires based on the need for pleasure or happiness is not so much love but emotional and vital hunger. So too a love calculating gain and loss is a business and a marriage based on social benefits is a transaction. These are as good as failures even if it succeeds by outer standards. So grow in love and try to make it beautiful and sincere. That is all that is needed.
Being an employee and in Society, as a seeker of Integral Yoga of Sri Aurobindo and The Mother, should we avoid going to marriages and other social events? 💒👥🤔🌸🦋
July 30, 2026
Social interactions are best avoided as they lead often to vital interchange during which one often loses much that is gained as a result of the Yoga. Besides, when one meets all kinds of people on the social ground one absorbs, almost mechanically, often unconsciously the general atmosphere that human beings carry around …
