Marriages do not work out as we expect them to do because of the gap between the ideal and the strength and sacrifice needed to realise it. This is very much missing today in the fast food and utilitarian culture imported largely from the West. But the Divine is always willing to help us realise the Ideal. He is not the spoilsport to our happiness but the helper and guide and it is only rarely that he does not grant a sincere prayer, and only when He sees the harm that may accrue through it. The reason why relationships end up badly is not God but our incapacity to love. A love full of demands, expectations,ย wishes and desires based on the need for pleasure or happiness is not so much love but emotional and vital hunger. So too a love calculating gain and loss is a business and a marriage based on social benefits is a transaction. These are as good as failures even if it succeeds by outer standards. So grow in love and try to make it beautiful and sincere. That is all that is needed.
As an aspirant on the Integral Yoga path, I am struggling with the application of Truthfulness in a delicate relationship. My partner, who has suffered past hurt due to my former actions, asks radical questions about whether my spiritual practice means I would forgive those who commit extreme atrocities against her or our future child. ๐จ๐ป๐ชท๐ฉ๐ป[…]
August 29, 2026
This has been answered by Sri Ramakrishna, Sri Krishna in the Gita and elaborated in great length by Sri Aurobindo through numerous letters as well in The Synthesis of Yoga. Seeing the Divine everywhere does not mean that one embraces the murderer and the rapist, forgets the difference between the snake and the snake …
