Marriages do not work out as we expect them to do because of the gap between the ideal and the strength and sacrifice needed to realise it. This is very much missing today in the fast food and utilitarian culture imported largely from the West. But the Divine is always willing to help us realise the Ideal. He is not the spoilsport to our happiness but the helper and guide and it is only rarely that he does not grant a sincere prayer, and only when He sees the harm that may accrue through it. The reason why relationships end up badly is not God but our incapacity to love. A love full of demands, expectations, wishes and desires based on the need for pleasure or happiness is not so much love but emotional and vital hunger. So too a love calculating gain and loss is a business and a marriage based on social benefits is a transaction. These are as good as failures even if it succeeds by outer standards. So grow in love and try to make it beautiful and sincere. That is all that is needed.
It’s been five years since our marriage, and I’m beginning to realise that there is a strong need in me to follow my own truth and become more of an individual in my own right. I feel that, in many ways, Indian society doesn’t really encourage women to live as individuals. Till now, I have felt like a child in many ways, and now there is a deep aspiration in me to become an adult to take responsibility for my own life and live my truth.
August 9, 2026
First things first. The first necessity of any and every human being is to arrive at his maximum possibility, to realise his or her highest ideal and conception. All the rest comes later. This is especially so for this Age where the old bases and old forms including the..
