Marriages do not work out as we expect them to do because of the gap between the ideal and the strength and sacrifice needed to realise it. This is very much missing today in the fast food and utilitarian culture imported largely from the West. But the Divine is always willing to help us realise the Ideal. He is not the spoilsport to our happiness but the helper and guide and it is only rarely that he does not grant a sincere prayer, and only when He sees the harm that may accrue through it. The reason why relationships end up badly is not God but our incapacity to love. A love full of demands, expectations, wishes and desires based on the need for pleasure or happiness is not so much love but emotional and vital hunger. So too a love calculating gain and loss is a business and a marriage based on social benefits is a transaction. These are as good as failures even if it succeeds by outer standards. So grow in love and try to make it beautiful and sincere. That is all that is needed.
Namaste Sir. If, in a relationship like marriage, there is no mutual respect for each other, what should be its fate? Marriage seems like a compromise, a cage, a dependency for the child’s future. I always pray to my mother to help me overcome such dependency. When bitterness overrides love, life searches only for escape. 💗🌿
September 27, 2026
A marraige that does not fulfil certain basic conditions is not a marraige at all but a forced togetherness for both. Love and mutual respect are fundamental to any relationship, much more so in a marraige where love goes to the extreme of complete trust and self giving. Of course if one has a child it is not easy to separate and perhaps …
