Marriages do not work out as we expect them to do because of the gap between the ideal and the strength and sacrifice needed to realise it. This is very much missing today in the fast food and utilitarian culture imported largely from the West. But the Divine is always willing to help us realise the Ideal. He is not the spoilsport to our happiness but the helper and guide and it is only rarely that he does not grant a sincere prayer, and only when He sees the harm that may accrue through it. The reason why relationships end up badly is not God but our incapacity to love. A love full of demands, expectations, wishes and desires based on the need for pleasure or happiness is not so much love but emotional and vital hunger. So too a love calculating gain and loss is a business and a marriage based on social benefits is a transaction. These are as good as failures even if it succeeds by outer standards. So grow in love and try to make it beautiful and sincere. That is all that is needed.
I have a question, Alok Da: I recently experienced a profound, day-long state of healing, peace and detachment after contemplating that true divinity lies beyond all determinations. By consciously releasing my sense of being the “doer” and shifting to “Thy Will be done,” I moved from a state of critical analysis to one of surrender. 🕊️🙏🏻[…]
September 16, 2026
What you tried earlier is the way of discernment characteristic of gyana yoga. Here one relies almost entirely upon one’s own efforts.
The second one of renouncing the doership is the kernel of karmayoga. The third attitude of ‘Let Thy Will be done’ is the acme of bhakti yoga.
Combine the three approaches. Step back from the blind identification with the surfaces of life a…
