Marriages do not work out as we expect them to do because of the gap between the ideal and the strength and sacrifice needed to realise it. This is very much missing today in the fast food and utilitarian culture imported largely from the West. But the Divine is always willing to help us realise the Ideal. He is not the spoilsport to our happiness but the helper and guide and it is only rarely that he does not grant a sincere prayer, and only when He sees the harm that may accrue through it. The reason why relationships end up badly is not God but our incapacity to love. A love full of demands, expectations, wishes and desires based on the need for pleasure or happiness is not so much love but emotional and vital hunger. So too a love calculating gain and loss is a business and a marriage based on social benefits is a transaction. These are as good as failures even if it succeeds by outer standards. So grow in love and try to make it beautiful and sincere. That is all that is needed.
Agreed, Alok da, but not about motive. If it feels negative and energies heavy – pulling you down then ok to say no, right and detach, why tug along.. like how you told me on vital interactions. I feel it’s draining me – even these friendships now – I did ask you earlier too – and I’m not being upfront about it and just carrying along to be nice societally.. but it doesn’t serve me now.. 🕊️🌿 […]
September 23, 2026
There is nothing wrong in being alone. In fact it is the sign of strength. To stay alone one need not judge others. What they do is their business. Our concern should be with the aim in front of us. Let others be the way they wish to be as long as they do not try to …
