Marriages do not work out as we expect them to do because of the gap between the ideal and the strength and sacrifice needed to realise it. This is very much missing today in the fast food and utilitarian culture imported largely from the West. But the Divine is always willing to help us realise the Ideal. He is not the spoilsport to our happiness but the helper and guide and it is only rarely that he does not grant a sincere prayer, and only when He sees the harm that may accrue through it. The reason why relationships end up badly is not God but our incapacity to love. A love full of demands, expectations, wishes and desires based on the need for pleasure or happiness is not so much love but emotional and vital hunger. So too a love calculating gain and loss is a business and a marriage based on social benefits is a transaction. These are as good as failures even if it succeeds by outer standards. So grow in love and try to make it beautiful and sincere. That is all that is needed.
All I see in these questions, asked by everyone, including both the right wing and the left wing, is that they are driven by ego, self-righteousness, and opinions. I don’t know where this sense of certainty comes from. I want to ask you the same thing, sir. I see all of you in the same boat: holding strong opinions and connecting every random issue to Sri Aurobindo and the Mother. I never imagined I would see conversations like this within this community. 🗣️💬🍞😣💔[…]
August 5, 2026
I can see that despite the overgeneralised remarks there is in you the urge to do good. Hence I am bypassing all your judgments that are bit too hasty and too generalised, and enclosing instead a writing from the Mother in the hope that you will possibly see some new hope in them.
