Marriages do not work out as we expect them to do because of the gap between the ideal and the strength and sacrifice needed to realise it. This is very much missing today in the fast food and utilitarian culture imported largely from the West. But the Divine is always willing to help us realise the Ideal. He is not the spoilsport to our happiness but the helper and guide and it is only rarely that he does not grant a sincere prayer, and only when He sees the harm that may accrue through it. The reason why relationships end up badly is not God but our incapacity to love. A love full of demands, expectations, wishes and desires based on the need for pleasure or happiness is not so much love but emotional and vital hunger. So too a love calculating gain and loss is a business and a marriage based on social benefits is a transaction. These are as good as failures even if it succeeds by outer standards. So grow in love and try to make it beautiful and sincere. That is all that is needed.
But then why does The Mother say, “Get rid of violence and you will be free from fear”? In their case, isn’t it the opposite: that violence stems from fear, so fear must be cured to cure violence? I am a little confused here, sorry. 🕊️🌿 […]
October 1, 2026
Violence and fear are closely interconnected. In psychology we call it anger and fear. Fear (and its cousin depression) stems from anger turned towards oneself. When anger is turned outwards it gives rise to violence. When it (anger) is turned inwards, towards oneself, it takes the form of fear. Basically it is the same energy. We can take a few …
