Marriages do not work out as we expect them to do because of the gap between the ideal and the strength and sacrifice needed to realise it. This is very much missing today in the fast food and utilitarian culture imported largely from the West. But the Divine is always willing to help us realise the Ideal. He is not the spoilsport to our happiness but the helper and guide and it is only rarely that he does not grant a sincere prayer, and only when He sees the harm that may accrue through it. The reason why relationships end up badly is not God but our incapacity to love. A love full of demands, expectations, wishes and desires based on the need for pleasure or happiness is not so much love but emotional and vital hunger. So too a love calculating gain and loss is a business and a marriage based on social benefits is a transaction. These are as good as failures even if it succeeds by outer standards. So grow in love and try to make it beautiful and sincere. That is all that is needed.
Hello sir. Since childhood, I have remained deprived of true love and real concern for me, even from my parents and siblings. Now, my married life has turned into a horrible situation. How to overcome such bitter experiences of life and become a true servant of the mother and Sri Aurobindo? 💗🌸🙏🏼
October 19, 2026
Take all this as a Grace. If you see closely the situations are actually serving the purpose of taking you closer and closer to your true destiny, the Divine. Those who are happy in the world as it is today are like souls in the kindergarten of life busy with toys and the basics. But when one is ready for the higher truth, then either one …
