Marriages do not work out as we expect them to do because of the gap between the ideal and the strength and sacrifice needed to realise it. This is very much missing today in the fast food and utilitarian culture imported largely from the West. But the Divine is always willing to help us realise the Ideal. He is not the spoilsport to our happiness but the helper and guide and it is only rarely that he does not grant a sincere prayer, and only when He sees the harm that may accrue through it. The reason why relationships end up badly is not God but our incapacity to love. A love full of demands, expectations, wishes and desires based on the need for pleasure or happiness is not so much love but emotional and vital hunger. So too a love calculating gain and loss is a business and a marriage based on social benefits is a transaction. These are as good as failures even if it succeeds by outer standards. So grow in love and try to make it beautiful and sincere. That is all that is needed.
Alok da, how much is the body linked to the development of the Will,? Do those people in professions which involve a thorough exertion of their hands and limbs intune with the head (like craftsman,painters, musicians, dancers,military men, chef’s and even agricultural labourers) have a scope for much development of the Will over those who don’t and are much more in the head(like software engineers,banks and students who spend hours infront of dense books reading), I believe mother once spoke on developing the consciousness of hand or something like that. Please illuminate
November 10, 2026
Those who work with hands or eye or mouth (speech) or brain develop more consciousness in those organs. It is not just the external instruments that develop by use but even more so, the consciousness in these organs that develops.
Similarly with the will. It develops if we exercise it. When we do not give up something, be it an effort to understand, or to work with the hands or simply make an effort to be regular and punctual builds the will. One…
