Marriages do not work out as we expect them to do because of the gap between the ideal and the strength and sacrifice needed to realise it. This is very much missing today in the fast food and utilitarian culture imported largely from the West. But the Divine is always willing to help us realise the Ideal. He is not the spoilsport to our happiness but the helper and guide and it is only rarely that he does not grant a sincere prayer, and only when He sees the harm that may accrue through it. The reason why relationships end up badly is not God but our incapacity to love. A love full of demands, expectations, wishes and desires based on the need for pleasure or happiness is not so much love but emotional and vital hunger. So too a love calculating gain and loss is a business and a marriage based on social benefits is a transaction. These are as good as failures even if it succeeds by outer standards. So grow in love and try to make it beautiful and sincere. That is all that is needed.
My Mother has had a very tough life after marriage and she was tortured physically and mentally by her husband. She does not believe in Mother and Sri Aurobindo. Lately, she has made herself bedridden and refuses to go anywhere. She has also developed symptoms of fits etc. like neck jerking. What should I do to make her come to senses?
October 12, 2026
Play some soft soothing music around her. If she believes in any traditional or other aspect of the Divine it will be helpful to recite a mantra when near her or simply chanting Om while holding her hand.
The fits would of course need to be shown to a physician to find out any underlying cause and administer specific treatment. See if anything triggers these neck movements such as particular light or television near her….
