Marriages do not work out as we expect them to do because of the gap between the ideal and the strength and sacrifice needed to realise it. This is very much missing today in the fast food and utilitarian culture imported largely from the West. But the Divine is always willing to help us realise the Ideal. He is not the spoilsport to our happiness but the helper and guide and it is only rarely that he does not grant a sincere prayer, and only when He sees the harm that may accrue through it. The reason why relationships end up badly is not God but our incapacity to love. A love full of demands, expectations,ย wishes and desires based on the need for pleasure or happiness is not so much love but emotional and vital hunger. So too a love calculating gain and loss is a business and a marriage based on social benefits is a transaction. These are as good as failures even if it succeeds by outer standards. So grow in love and try to make it beautiful and sincere. That is all that is needed.

It’s during the COVID lockdown that I’ve developed a philosophical curiosity and somehow got introduced to the writings of Sri Aurobindo, which I’ve been exploring intellectually ever since, but there’s always this sense of something missing. ๐๐๐ป๐ชทโค๏ธโ๐ฅ[…]
Now that you have understood that it is humility that opens the doors to knowledge. In fact when the mind becomes quiet then true knowledge begins to step in as sunlight enters a dark room lit with a candle and we begin to see everything afresh and new. Everyone who approaches the Divine by the power of the rational intellectual mind alone experiences this at some point if there was a genuine seeking behind the mere play of …

