AT THE FEET OF THE MOTHER

I’ve developed mutual romantic feelings for my cousin. We’re not very closely related, but not too distant either. Some of my muslim friends say there’s nothing wrong with it, also I feel a strong physical attraction toward this person. I’m wondering if this is wrong, especially if we end up getting physically involved😥.

It is quite likely a physical attraction alone. Regardless of being a cousin and setting aside moral notions, physical relation before marriage comes with a certain risk, especially for the girl. Romance and physical attraction wears off as swiftly as it comes, especially after physical involvement. My suggestion would be to wait and not concede to these feelings. Turn your mind towards creative activities rather than rush into crossing a line of no-return. 

Affectionately,

Alok Da

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