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My father scolds me in front of my new wife in a very insulting way. I do not like it and I feel she is losing respect for me. Nowadays I have started retaliating back but that stops him for that time but next time he again loses his temper and does the same thing. Please Advise

You need to draw the line and make it clear to him that this is unacceptable. Instead of retaliating you should discuss with him, not in front of your wife but when alone about the reasons for his being so critical of you and try to address his concerns.

Affectionately,

Alok da.

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