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We know of so many people who are facing impossible situations and problems and they are helpless. They do not know what to do or whom to ask.
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My parents and relatives are telling me to go abroad and do a course as they think I am too attached to my home and city. My only reason for not going is that I don’t want to leave home. Please Advise.
But you should go. If you go you will grow wide. To understand things, you need to go around the world and see. This will
Sometimes I feel no one values me. How do I stop that feeling?
Human beings do not know the value of things, let alone of people because they see everything from the lens of their selfish advantage. Generally
How to deal with manipulative people ? How to deal with people who use other people for their own benefit ?
What one needs to do is to draw clear boundaries and refuse to be a puppet to someone’s demands. Our choices and actions actions should
Sometimes but very rarely my 6 year old has bad dreams. If I ask her what it was about she says she doesn’t remember. How do I comfort her ?
Bad dreams that sometimes may take the place of nightmares are not uncommon in children. They may come either because
Please explain Hindutv of Sri Aurobindo and Hidutva of our sanskruti
Sri Aurobindo did not use the word Hindutva. The term has been coined more recently by Veer Savarkar ji. However everybody seems to put their
What is the most surprising thing in the world?
Well this question was answered by Yudhishthira, “Everyday people die and yet man thinks he is immortal.”
This well known phrase in the Mahabharata during
My mother-in-law interferes in everything in our lives, to the extent that she will change things in my room. My husband being a mamma’s boy does not seem to have a problem with this. He has to report everything to her, I do not like this. How can I manage this problem? as every time I end up fighting with him and always she continues to do what she does.
There is a tact and an art in this. You need to talk to your husband in a manner that he understands your point. Instead
My father scolds me in front of my new wife in a very insulting way. I do not like it and I feel she is losing respect for me. Nowadays I have started retaliating back but that stops him for that time but next time he again loses his temper and does the same thing. Please Advise
You need to draw the line and make it clear to him that this is unacceptable. Instead of retaliating you should discuss
My problem is that I want to trust on my kids but some outer circumstances and views I can’t trust on him. So what practice I should do to regrading these trust issues?
Whether we can have trust on the children or not we have to keep a watch over them till they grow up into responsible adults.
My mother-in-law does not let go of the control in the house even after years. She makes me feel that the house we stay together is her house, I too want to feel that I am living in my house. What to do?
It takes time to build a relationship and win the trust and confidence of those who are already there. It applies in the field of
Every time I am doing something important in my life, my father will tell me that it will not work out and I should not have my hopes too high, he is such a pessimist but still he gets inside my head and I am upset and full of tension, why is he not supporting me?
The question you need to ask is not why your father is not supporting you but that why you still believe
Can you please explain the difference between Gayatri and Savitri? How do you get this continuous flow of thoughts on any subject?
Gayatri is the personification of a specific metre in Sanskrit poetry. As a goddess, she is supposed to be the power behind the inspirations and
My daughter demands that we buy branded expensive clothes for her just like her friends wear. We cannot afford it but then I worry she will look the odd one out and girls will not include her in their group.
Explain to her through stories and examples that the value of a human being does not depend on how she looks or the clothes one
What impact does self-belief have on one’s ability to achieve success?
Naturally self belief or rather faith, – faith in
What does success mean to you personally?
To fulfill what we are born for, the purpose of our life, to be
When I meet some of my relatives, I feel so low due to the things they point out and the personal comments they pass to me and because of our social settings I just cannot avoid them, I don’t know what to do?
If you cannot avoid these relatives then you have to learn to ignore them. Human opinions are anyways of no value since
My children are home all day due to vacations, staff is also less and sometimes zero. Then they will make a mess, want to do painting and play with clay and I know I should let them do all this but later it gets so hard on me and when I ask then to help they will never help in clean up so all day I am irritated and tired. Why I have so much dependency on staff?
Dependency on staff is fine but it is better to explain and train the children to help clean up after they have played. It is
How do you maintain motivation and focus when faced with obstacles?
By increasing our will and cultivating faith and endurance.
When faced with an obstacle, then instead of giving up one should