What should a child do in a situation where their parents have failed to provide the understanding they needed? Should the child try to forget and forgive or should they confront their parents and express everything, the pain, the emotional neglect, and how the parents made everything about themselves? Especially when the parents act as though they’ve done the child a favor by providing education and believe this puts them on a pedestal because they have worked hard to give it, expecting constant praise and obedience😥

(“khoon pasina ek karke padhaya hai tumhe aur sab kuch diya hai, sari zidd puri kari hai tumhari” )

What is the right path for the child to take?

The child should carve her own path leaving behold the past. It is easier by bringing in a right understanding. Parents, almost all parents of the old model have similar ideas about parenting because these are the ideas they inherited from their parents which they unquestioningly accepted as right. But there has been a big generation shift since the sixties and it is still going on. They don’t know how to deal with it and are unwilling to learn and change. They are ignorant but not bad willed. They love and care, almost instinctively as it is inbuilt in the animal life itself. But are unable to understand and guide. So take their love and care and give them love and care in return. But don’t expect understanding and right guidance. For that consultant your inmost heart, apply your intelligence, read books and grow into a strong, healthy and independent individual. 

Affectionately,

Alok Da