When we have some difficulties and we pass through them. There are certain times in our lives, which we forever regret . How should we stop those old memories from coming to is when they just flash before our eyes ,even when we do not try to remember them? How to offer them and how to keep faith, if things will fall back into place, is it right to want things to become like the earlier times or is it important to look at the future? Also when there are many things going on and the Divine fulfils some of your desires but in other things you forget to express your gratitude, how can we appreciate what we have yet improve the difficulties in our nature and not be afraid to accept and acknowledge them, worried about what someone else thinks about you?  

Asked by 12 year old Girl

Thank you for the beautiful question.  Let me take it step by step.

First thing that we must acknowledge is that life is not perfect and none of us is perfect.  Yet we seek perfection within us and in the people and the world around us. But perfection develops through a long journey in which failure and fall are at some point part of the plan. Hence when we fall and get hurt we should not react with fear of the future or blame game and guilt etc. Instead we should try to see carefully and sincerely within us for the faultlines, understand what makes us vulnerable,  what are our weakspots and thence start rectifying them. If we do not do so then yes the faultline remains keeping us vulnerable.  If we repair and mend the part we grow strong and move one step towards perfection. But it is only possible if we look for the inner causes instead of blaming others.

All of us, without exception, make mistakes. The difference is that some learn the lesson fast, others refuse to learn.

At the same time we should not let a bad past experience overpower and paralyse us. We should consciously cultivate and have confidence that the Divine is with us and hence He will hold and lift us through every stumble and fall. Why did He let us stumble? Because it was a needed learning step in our growth towards perfection.  But if we learn fast and keep our faith intact then there is no reason to ever fall again. 

Yes gratitude is an expression of love. It is a sign of psychic development. But the best way to express our gratitude to the Divine is to try and live according to His teachings.  Not only is this the best expression of gratitude it is also the best way to walk safely on the great journey of life.

Lots of love 

Alok da