I have observed very often that people who have already experienced certain mishaps and suffering tend to forget when someone else goes through the same pain. Instead of relating to others and condoling them, they start giving advice. While one sees others in pain😫, why does one forget his own sufferings?

Generally this does not happen. Those who go through suffering usually develop an empathy. They do give advices based on what they have learnt though they forget that the way each one deals with the same problem depends upon each one’s unique constitution and past experiences. Each has to learn their own way and advices, even though well meaning, often do not help. 

Affectionately,

Alok Da