Home » Children » Adult Children » Every time I am doing something important in my life, my father will tell me that it will not work out and I should not have my hopes too high, he is such a pessimist but still he gets inside my head and I am upset and full of tension, why is he not supporting me?
The question you need to ask is not why your father is not supporting you but that why you still believe in your father more than in yourself.
If one has to do something in life then one must not be dependent upon the opinion of anyone including one’s nearest ones. Being upset does not help. It will only waste your time and energy. Use the opposition and discouragement of others to grow strong and independent.
Affectionately,
Alok da.
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