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In yesterday’s question on marriage where parents emotionally blackmailing their child to get married you said it is extremely selfish act at its core but they also used to tell us like we are also becoming selfish by not fulfilling their wish. In such a scenario we really don’t have answer answer and such thoughts comes like are we also acting selfishly? Please guide whose demand is valid here😥?

May 8, 2025

There is a fundamental right given by the Divine to make our free choices and suffer the good or bad consequences. That is the whole

Alok da, some time back I had an argument with my mother as she said I was rude with my brother and so first I told her she is making a big deal while me and my brother are fine and then the argument got into shouting when she was lecturing me about being an elder sibling and my responsibility blah blah blah and when I told her that, “Well please first see how you both are with your siblings and the example you set then tell me”, and I know that I am much better and more responsible than them😠, so of course the situation went out of hand and she created a tantrum for a week, I know I was not in the wrong but I am just curious how can this situation be handled better? Can a child not tell a parent that you should practice before you preach?

April 4, 2025

Certainly one should be free to discuss freely and frankly with parents, teachers, elders everyone. Nachiketa, Prahlad, Lakshman, Sita are all examples among many others.

I have a very weird relationship with my parents when it comes to their relationships with their parents. I don’t share a very happy relationship with my grand parents due to their behavior with me and my family earlier in my life. They do not fit in my circle of people and i have communicated to my parents clearly that i will only have a cordial relationship with them, in terms of only greeting when we meet. I prefer to keep my wife and kid away from the grand parents influence, however my father’s expectation on this is more and we have a tiff every time an incident happens. I have come to terms with this situation, however how do I communicate this to my parents clearly and again😠?

January 19, 2025

Communication is mainly meant to build bridges by expressing what is going on within oneself. The purpose is to help build a bond of deeper

What can be the way to tackle the confusion about choosing a career, if one got no preferences, no interests, one only wants to get lots of money to become independent and then do something great for the nation for its resurgence😩?

November 25, 2024

Take the profession that is closest to your heart, to your true nature, swabhava and swadharma. Do it with sincerity in the spirit of serving

What does it mean to be sincere in the yoga 🧘‍♂️?

November 5, 2024

To be sincere means that our actions are in tune with the aim and aspiration that we have placed before us. To be sincere means

I wish to pursue my hobbies like music🎵, sports🏏. But due to the pressure of getting a job by my parents, I must only focus on studying. What to do?

October 13, 2024

Since your parents are perhaps not supportive of your interests, the first thing necessary is to become financially independent. You should look for a job,

How to become role model for children👩🏽‍🤝‍🧑🏼?

September 27, 2024

Better to be a living example than a role model. There is a difference between these two concepts. A role model is something external, but

My parents and relatives are telling me to go abroad and do a course as they think I am too attached to my home and city. My only reason for not going is that I don’t want to leave home. Please Advise.

July 8, 2024

But you should go. If you go you will grow wide. To understand things, you need to go around the world and see. This will

Every time I am doing something important in my life, my father will tell me that it will not work out and I should not have my hopes too high, he is such a pessimist but still he gets inside my head and I am upset and full of tension, why is he not supporting me?

July 3, 2024

The question you need to ask is not why your father is not supporting you but that why you still believe

My father is very controlling. He has a habit of making decisions for us. I am 30 and I do not know how to say no to him or tell him to mind his own business?

June 19, 2024

There is no how to saying it. It has to be said and if one cannot say it then one

I am 40 yet my mother criticizes me and taunts me all the time, I can’t answer back as she will throw a tantrum and yet I have to listen to her. I am tired of her complaints as no matter what I do is not enough for her, how can I handle her ?

June 19, 2024

This relation is not healthy and the more you try to make her happy the worse it is likely to become. You have to learn

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