The need of love is not, in its origin at least, necessarily a lower vital hunger. It is primarily an emotional need or so it is felt, through which the lower nature tries to replicate the relation of Purusha and Prakriti in terms of Ignorance. Naturally this often ends up badly because the lower vital forces of passion, lust, sentimental weaknesses, attachment, jealousy, possessiveness and the spirit of dominance rise up and pollute the movement of love degrading it into its very opposite. Yet, inspite of all this the blossoming of true love touched by the psychic energies and turned into sweet tender care and warmth of mutual affection is often the first opening of the heart centre to something like a far off indirect glimpse of the Divine. Therefore if love awakens it is best to refine and purify it rather than stifle and supress it.
What if one has not found the ‘love of one’s life for which one was waiting for?’ Well, it is here that the error lies, of waiting for that one person exclusively mine. Instead one should open the heart and love all that is around, plants, animals, objects, nature, friends, family, not as an ignorant attachment but as a giver, full of kindness towards all creatures. For love in its essence is the giving of oneself to another or to the world at large. But this giving is not conceding to all kinds of things but to all that is beautiful and high and noble and divine. By such a giving, the heart is purified of selfishness and we open to universal love. Once that happens we never feel alone even if nobody lives with us or shares our life because we keep receiving from the universal source of all love. Once this happens we are ready to take the leap towards the Divine Love which is the purest and most powerful Love at its very origin. Nothing is needed after that since the Divine Love heals all loneliness and fills every emptiness with Her Sweetness and Strength, Beauty and Bliss, Peace and Light.
Affectionately,
Alok Da
