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I have this thing where I am good at holding conversation, I can talk to people if required. For example to friends, family, professional settings. But I feel silence communicates so much more. I feel talking is fine if the other person requires it, but I feel mutual silence or atleast my silence/quietude is able to express and convey so much more than outward speaking. Does this hold truth? Obviously I don’t want to be a monk and not speak, but I just feel people are missing out big time on the peace and grandiosity of expression through mute conversation or at-least limited conversation. Is this even possible or is it just in my own head? I feel like I’m just conversing due to the other person’s inability to understand my lack of words…so I just do it to make sure they feel cared about. But, personally, I feel conversation definitely has its own purpose and utility, but majority of the time it’s a useless means for people trying to find a way to show friendship, affection, and a means of reassuring the other person of their care…thoughts🙃?

In complete agreement with you. Though the faculty of speech is the highest so far, it is an evolutionary gift to mankind. Its purpose is not only to communicate and express what is within us but as a means of ascension to higher states of consciousness using the power of thought within us. It is precisely for this reason that the less we speak, the more powerful our thought tends to become. Not only does it become more powerful it develops the capacity of communicating without speech. So your understanding is quite true and there is a deeper basis to it. 

However since communication is a two-way process, it requires a certain degree of receptivity for the other person to receive the unspoken communication. As yet it is very rare and hence a lack of expression is often taken as an absence of feelings. Hence it is best to speak little, speak sensibly instead of a meaningless chatter which disperses the mental energies and, to speak from the depths of the heart.

Affectionately,

Alok Da

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