AT THE FEET OF THE MOTHER
Ask Alok da

We know of so many people who are facing impossible situations and problems and they are helpless. They do not know what to do or whom to ask. 

This is a dedicated site for those who are searching for answers, who want to break from their present repeating circles of life and looking for answers that will understand them, help them find a new way-a new solution towards life beautiful and Divine.

What should a child do in a situation where their parents have failed to provide the understanding they needed? Should the child try to forget and forgive or should they confront their parents and express everything, the pain, the emotional neglect, and how the parents made everything about themselves? Especially when the parents act as though they’ve done the child a favor by providing education and believe this puts them on a pedestal because they have worked hard to give it, expecting constant praise and obedience😥

The child should carve her own path leaving behold the past. It is easier by bringing in a right understanding. Parents, almost all parents of

Read More >

“Bhaiya, I wanted to ask you something. What is the right way to celebrate Rakshabandhan? My sister and cousin usually send me rakhis, and while I truly love and care for them, I don’t feel very connected to the rituals of the festival. I sometimes wonder if I should stop participating, or if I should continue just so they don’t feel hurt. What do you think is the right thing to do?”😌

Stopping will hurt them and it is not needed as the ritual is simply one expression of love and care. You can pray for them,

Read More >

When someone wants to start their spiritual journey, some people begin with introductory courses offered by well-known organisations and gradually build on that, eventually going on to teach “Spirituality” in a systematic way. But of course, you have to pay for those. What I want to ask is—apart from the money side, can anyone begin their spiritual journey in this way🤨? And if someone feels drawn to Sri Aurobindo and The Mother, what introductory books would you recommend?

This way of turning people to the spiritual life is nothing but spiritual commercialism wherein spiritual teaching or practice is sold as a commodity. The

Read More >

I’m going to pour my heart out here. For a number of years I have been out of any relationship, preferring to focus on my own personal goals and spiritual development. Recently, I met a girl with whom I entered into a casual relationship. We were spending a lot of time together, felt mutually happy, had a lot of fun, and had sexual contact as well (although it was not the main component). This thing lasted for only a month, and we both agreed from the start that it could not continue after this month because of our going to separate places. I even warned her from the very beginning that we have to be careful so as not to catch feelings towards each other. She said — yes, it will not happen. However, over time the situation changed. She fell in love with me, told me she never met someone like me, that I made her feel very happy and safe, and so on. I told her we could try to continue our relationship long distance. But personally, I don’t feel the same depth of feelings towards her😬. Nor can I imagine her as my long-term partner because I don’t feel that she is spiritually inclined. (It is important for me to be with someone who shared my aspiration).

These things happen when we are excessively focused on one aspect or dimension to the exclusion of others, especially the emotional and passionate aspects of

Read More >

Over the past decade I have faced far too many personal & professional failures. Nothing I seek is seeking me, in fact its getting repelled from me the moment I start working towards it. I’m loosing my faith in the world, I see myself alienating from almost everyone. I’m a well meaning, truthful and soul curious person. What’s happening to me? Is this a sign for me to leave the material world🥹?

It is the moment to reckon the truth that you are perhaps not marked for the things that you are seeking in ignorance. It is

Read More >

I’m just starting to read Savitri🕊️, and was just wondering about the general and deeper synopsis. The story itself is based on a story from MahaBharata ? But I’ve heard some people say also that though the story is based on that, that Savitri is the representation of the spiritual evolution of the Soul and Satyavan is the Spiritual Destiny? I’m a bit confused on the grand symbolic meaning of the epic.

As to the story of Savitri and Satyavan it is narrated in the Mahabharata as well as Brahmvaivarta Purana as a tale of conjugal love

Read More >

What happens when two people in a relationship have an unequal (one person is extremely attracted, the other may feel some attraction but not to the same extent) amount of love towards each other? Is love a necessary prerequisite for living happily together, or is being simply comfortable and at peace around another person enough for this purpose🤨?

Love is everywhere and in everything. But if you mean human love then yes it works best if there is affinity at different levels. Attraction,

Read More >

Could you please explain what exactly these three forces are in the passage from Life Divine🤔? All our activities are the play of the triple force of the old philosophies, knowledge-force, desire-force, action-force, and all these prove to be really three streams of one original and identical Power, Adya Shakti. Even our states of rest are only equable state or equilibrium of the play of her movement…

Tamas is not mentioned because it is about activity that he is speaking. Tamas is inertia and sets in to balance the activity. The three

Read More >