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We know of so many people who are facing impossible situations and problems and they are helpless. They do not know what to do or whom to ask.Ā
This is a dedicated site for those who are searching for answers, who want to break from their present repeating circles of life and looking for answers that will understand them, help them find a new way-a new solution towards life beautiful and Divine.
Is sex an essential part of a relationship? What happens when one partner feels a natural desire for physical intimacy, while the other is either not interested or doesnāt feel the same way? How should someone navigate this difference without compromising the emotional bond they share? Is it possible to maintain a fulfilling relationship when such a fundamental aspect of connection is missing or mismatchedš¤?
Sex has little if anything to do with love. What love needs for its integral fulfilment is physical intimacy but that need not mean sex.
I have some doubts regarding mantra chanting, I am chanting ” Om Namo Bhagwate Sri Aurobindai” and ” Om Anandmayi Chaityana Satyamayi Parame”, and one Name, “Maa Sri Aurobindo”. But I am confused with some traditional problems that above two are mantras should not chant when I am not clean or in any dirty place. But last mantra, “Ma Sri Aurobindo” is name and I can do it anywhere, anytime, doing anything, even in bathroomš¤Ø?
Sri Aurobindo and The Mother never gave any outer (or even inner conditions) for chanting Their Names or the mantras. Even Sri Krishna does not
I feel that by nature, my mind is quite restless. I don’t find comfort in peaceful or quiet places. For instance, when I once visited Samadhi, I stepped out almost immediately, I just couldn’t bear the silence. Iāve tried meditation too, but it didnāt work for me. I think the reason is that I came to materialistic pleasures a bit later in life, so my mindset is: let me enjoy them first. Maybe, once I grow tired of all this, Iāll begin to seek peace. Perhaps only then will I truly understand the value of Samadhi. In my understanding, spirituality is equal to peaceš„.
One never gets tired of pleasure except temporarily. Pleasures, whether material or vital, are like an addiction. It satiates temporarily but never satisfies. It returns
Why is it not advisable to stay in Pondicherry and work for ashram for few years and then go back to the place of temporary āhomeā until one day one comes back to Pondicherry for good for the rest of their life? Why when we move is it advised to move for good š¤Ø?
There is no such rule like that. On the contrary people are advised to initially work temporarily as volunteers and see for themselves if they
Why do people say that money can’t buy happiness or peace? With money, we can buy branded things that bring joy. We can fulfill parents’ dreams and our own. We can afford all the material comforts we desire, and these things make us feel happy and content. If we want to visit the Ashram, we can easily go, and that gives us peace. Money gives us the freedom to travel the world, which also brings happiness and peace. So, doesnāt money actually make it easier to experience these thingsš?
Of course if buying branded cloth, traveling around the world, fulfilling parent’s dreams and material comforts is all that one seeks then surely money may
What is the reason and significance of the samadhi of Ma and Sri Aurobindo unlike Hindu tradition of cremation? Am sure there is a reason of this difference. Would you please explainš¤?
In India there has always been a tradition of giving samadhi to certain realised saints and Yogis rather than burning the body. The logic is
Does yoga involve the concept of self-respectš¤Ø?
Yes of course. Self-respect is part of the sattwic ego. It is true that eventually the ego-self has to be entirely renounced but it is
What is the significance of 24th April?
‘The anniversary of my return to Pondicherry, which was the tangible sign of the sure Victory over the adverse forces.’ This is the significance that
Alok da, what should I say when people start discussing in the old days Ashram was so much better, people were smiling and products were so good and now so many outsiders come? Please share your light on thisš¤Ø.Ā
Old people everywhere keep thinking about the ‘good old days’. It is everywhere and in every age of mankind. But if we really have faith
Dear Alok da, today on this day how do we share The motherās light to the world?Ā Please guide as what subject should be shared and how? Like how to share all this with the new children? Like podcasts may be digital media films books , the language they understand and howš¤?
What the youngsters need most today is direction and a clear aim or goal. There are too many distractions, too many opinions pulling them in
This is a very serious question.Ā When I started getting connected to The Mother and Sri Aurobindo a year back , listening your talks, going to Delhi ashram, reading the books, I used to feel so close to them, my aspiration was high, I used to be conscious of them, Sincere in my works and offerings.But now when I have spent more than a year in Delhi and college, specially giving alot energy to my relationship, as I took lots of ups and downs, indulging in music societies, and hence getting into all the lower activities like spending time with people with ordinary life and lower tendencies. I did this mistake for a very long time.Ā I’m in my hometown for diwali holidays, far away from everything, everyone. When I sit alone and try to feel her presence and introspect. I see that the flame is not the same, the spark has gone, although I know that I’m for her, I have to live for her, but certainly my aspiration is not the same.Ā I feel myself far from her. The wanting, the curiosity, the questioning mind, the will to grow, everything has come to a static state.Ā I know you can understand, please help me, what can I do, I don’t want to live an ordinary life, I want to live for her, only for her, her ,herš.Ā
These ups and downs come to everyone. One has to persist and persevere through it all refusing to give up. One has to keep learning
My niece is so confused in choosing her career. How should I help her in providing some solution to her confusionš¤?
There are two things mainly to be considered. The first is her goal, the aim that she places before herself, not just in terms of
I donāt quite understand the concept of doing vrats. Many women around me observe fasts on Mondays, Thursdays, and other specific days. These fasts are usually done with a particular intentionālike, āIāll fast for 5 Mondays, please help my husband get a job.ā And surprisingly, after completing the 5 Mondays, their wish often comes true. This strengthens their belief that the fasting made it happen, and then they start encouraging others to do it tooš.
People say and do all kinds of things for fulfilling their wishes. When things happen the way they wanted, they believe in it more, and
Is it so that all those movements that result in regret subsequently were vital or mental movements, and perhaps done in hurry? Also is it because of ego-self only that one feels regretful of ones mistakes; isn’t acknowledgement of one’s own mistakes a sign of growing consciousš?
Human beings live in great ignorance and unconsciousness. As they go through life, consciousness grows little by little, often through lives. Mistakes are therefore part
Can past karmas be one of the factors responsible for lifelong mental illness and considerable mental sufferingš„?
Past karma is always there behind everything but not as a reward and punishment but as a constant learning process. So instead of pondering over
I heard in your talks that the psychic being, after physical death on earth, and shedding off the vital and mental sheaths, goes to the psychic world, where it is put to psychic sleep by the world Mother. Kindly tell me if that sleep is unconscious, semi-conscious, or fully conscious for the psychic beingš? And also, is that sleep Blissful for the psychic being?
It is a blissful state of peaceful unconsciousness, a deep sleep from which you wake up forgetting all the past except what is bare essential.
Last night, I had many dreams, of which I remember two. One was a sexual dream, and the other was a dream where I went to a village to do divine work. There, a dog and a wild animal stood in front of me, but they couldn’t harm me. As I went further, the villagers told me, ‘How did you manage to escape from them? They have killed 130 people so far.’ Then I thought to myself, ‘You donāt know whose work Iāve come to do.’ After that, I was returning home after doing the divine work, and again, those same animals appeared in front of me, trying to bite me, and then the dream ended. Does this have any meaningš¤?
These are the difficulties coming on the path when we undertake the Divine Work. Generally dogs are not harmful creatures but some do represent agents
I go from top to bottom I was getting Down, like in a basement place, it was all maroon colour and had rooms ..chatted with some servants there, our neighbours son who is very dear to us had comes into his new home and he came out to meet me. This house was largely empty as i got down the inner room. As I am finding my way I realise the servants were over smart people. As I got down there are shoes out there in a untidy manner. I took a black pair of shoes and told the servantsĀ itās my sister and we have exchangedĀ and there is a red pair up which is mine I have left for her but servant had to check with the app on her phone. First it did not work so she doubted me as if I was steeling itā¦I told her check again properly. Then I showed her the black heel shoes, this time the app worked so I gave her a firing as you should do your work properly. A Wedding was going in background. Can you please explain this dreamš?
The maroon basement is the subconscient mind and the servants are possibly the senses whose action and working is being organised by the higher intelligence