We know of so many people who are facing impossible situations and problems and they are helpless. They do not know what to do or whom to ask.
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How should I handle it, if friend seems to show off their materialistic achievements, like buying the latest phone, a house, a car, and affording branded clothes and shoes, while taking great pride in emphasizing that their hard work is finally paying off because they can now afford these things. Whenever I talk to them, I feel a sense of competition🤨, as if I need to earn more and more, and it seems like they take satisfaction in knowing that I earn less than them.
You should simply laugh it off. It is the sign that they have not outgrown the child stage where one displays one’s toys. It also
Dear Alok da, since it’s festival time the atmosphere is full of vital energies and all day I have to meet people and socialise, the days I don’t meet many and in my routine I can concentrate and so my dreams too are clear and symbolic but these days due to the situation all is spoil and dreams are of subconscious chaos, past memories or I don’t remember, so can you advise what to do? Though since more than a month every nite as I sleep off Mother’s Savitri commentaries with Sunil da’s music is on only but other than that what can I do🤔?
Yes, socialization is almost like a disease that is difficult to get out of the system once it settles as a default program of life.
Why did Yudhishthira gamble everything? Why did Sri Krishna, who was physically present as an Avatar, allow him to do that? How can he be considered the paragon of Dharma? I just cannot understand how a man like Yudhishthira could put everything, including his wife, on the gambling table🙄?
Yudhishthira’s situation shows that even a man of virtues can make errors and mistakes. Great individuals can commit great errors. Yudhishthira made a significant mistake
“If a man dies suddenly in a state of passion with numerous attachments, different parts of their being are dispersed and live for a shorter or longer time their own life in their own domain” this is a quote from mother 12th February 1958. Is this what ghosts are? If not what are ghosts👻 then?
Yes, ghosts are generally disembodied vital entities thrown in the atmosphere after death.
How to get rid of regrets of an action😨?
By understanding that life does not, in fact has never followed a rule book of the mind. The mind, especially reason must develop discernment and
Why do you call the Divine the Divine 😇?
I suppose you mean etymologically. The word one uses should in some way communicate what the subject or object represents. While it is impossible for
The Divine has created countless galaxies, universes, and billions of stars with planets, yet only Earth🌏 has human life. Everything changes outside Earth’s atmosphere, like the lack of sufficient oxygen. Why does life exist only here, and that too in such an imperfect forms? Is it part of a greater plan, or is it simply a mystery beyond understanding?
Yes, earth is a very special place that has been formed for a specific Divine Purpose. You may call it a laboratory of evolution, the
What do I do if there’s too much pressure on me to succeed academically but I don’t know if I will? because the pressure is really getting to me..😣
Academic success means very little from the point of view of quality and fulfilment of life, let alone its purpose. Much more important is to
Why are the fates of some people good and others’ bad? What about people who make wrong choices and fall into bad company. And what should be done if parents’ company itself is not good. What is it that makes us commit mistakes even when we know what we are doing is not right😥?
The idea of good and bad itself is an error of the mind since it does not have the knowledge to judge anything. A man
Before coming to the Mother, I used to give my everything to my friends around me even at the expense of myself. However, I always have given my all to these friends, and yet when I needed them most, the majority were not there for me. The girl I considered my best friend literally does nothing for me, even on my birthday. For a while I thought that it was because she just didn’t know how to express but yet she does so much for my other friends. So clearly she can but she doesn’t want to for me. This broke my heart. I know expectations spoil love, and I need to purify it, but it’s still hurtful to see. Now some new friends are slowly coming into my life, but my closest friends in the past are those whom have hurt me quite hard a few times and now I just don’t even see the point in making new friends. For me, Mother, Sri Aurobindo and my sister give me all the friendship I need. But even in the Ashram, there were beautiful friendships. But now 😔
The urge to be alone, the dropping off of old friends, the inner distancing from old ties, the new preferences indicating progress in different dimensions
Many times I feel a burden with my relationship with my sibling, though he is an middle aged adult, my parents treat him like a child and they expect me to do so, our relationship is one sided one as I can hardly can rely on him, where else everything I am expected to do for him. Here I am not complaining as I don’t feel it’s right to constantly protect and spoil someone like a baby when I do not do that same things for my own children🙄, how can I manage this as all this hinders in my work and my purpose of life?
Relationships need to be nurtured from both the sides, otherwise it is not a relationship but a sacrifice. And sacrifice of this kind, done out
Why did Draupadi have to go through such humiliation? Why did Sri Krishna let it happen😠?
Because the entire Kuru clan had to be destroyed. Draupadi was not only born to be an empress or a samragyi she was born with
Why do one feels a sense of burden always? I really don’t know if its a general pattern with all specially with my teen that I feel very confused or its specific to me… I see a conflict with my child most of the days… her soul and mind seems to be of a 20 yr old.. the way she analyses sometimes, speaks with clarity feels awww. On the other side her vital, its demands, peer group influence is of a teenager… there is a fight in her and she feesl very angry, worthless, scared of that she would be nothing and no one would know her etc and imposes undue pressure onto her…… and feels exhausted … she can’t be consistent with things, does things when she feels like and knows that is not good and then she will over analyze it and gets into criticism. How to help her out of this😥? What ever we do seems to be of little help as she has a habit of self induce pressure and can’t deliver things.
The sense of burden is common to all thinking human beings. There are those who do not think much and their life is confined either
How can we avoid taking for granted someone who loves us and takes cares for our needs/wants/desires without asking for anything in return, we usually hurt them through our actions🙄?
Yes, that is quite a correct observation. Instead of returning love for love we end up becoming dependent upon it and taking it for …
Why aren’t there recordings of Sri Aurobindo’s voice for us to listen to😣?
I think recording tapes were not yet popular. Besides Sri Aurobindo shunned every kind of popularity. He
Why did Krishna break the rules of dharma😠?
There is a significant lesson to learn here. First of all dharma is not a set of arbitrary man made rules based on fixed human
I was inspired by your suggestion to do digital and social detox as part of realigning with my inner guidance. Right now, I am not able to move much as I am on crutches, and I don’t really gave anywhere to go to apart from my room and the small garden. I want to do at least one day of digital detox. What is the best way to spend my time during this experience, given my confinement to my room?
Listen to music, read, reflect, write with paper and pen, learn something new such as painting or piano or flute, astrology, think, pray, meditate, many
I have faced failure in 4-5 relationships with women, and it always feels like, in the end, they find a reason to leave me. Despite my efforts to make things work, this recurring pattern has left me deeply hurt, alone, and emotionally broken. There are times when the loneliness becomes unbearable, and I can’t help but wonder if there’s something inherently wrong with me, if I’m destined to face these struggles in relationships, or if I am meant to remain single forever😪.
It is difficult to comment on personal aspects. But man-woman relationship is a science as well as an art, especially a capacity to feel the