Home » Relationships » A couple of months back a guy I went for lunch with paid for my lunch because the place didn’t accept card payment. At the time I was sick, and so I forgot about it. A month later, the person reminded me of it (the amount was trifling). I was going to do it, but got distracted by various other things and so forgot again, and so the next day this person gave me a middle finger, called me a thief, telling me that he wishes I get into an accident, and swore at me. I finally gave him the money the same day, apologised for the delay, but also told him that what he told me was over the bar and unacceptable. He didn’t even reply anything. Now, whenever I see this person, he looks away and avoids me. Any normal person would have long apologised and behaved appropriately, but I suspect that this person’s extremely strange behaviour is due to his drug use (he told me earlier that he took psychedelics recently). Something in me pities him, yet at the same time I also don’t feel comfortable around him because of his strange behaviour. Can you suggest what is the best attitude I should take in this situation🫤?
It is the sign of meanness. It is best to keep distance from such people unless you are responsible for them in any way. To think about them, to interact with them, even to sympathise with them is not helpful and opens you to their influence.
Affectionately,
Alok Da
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