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What is ones duty when some elder in place of parent continues to harass you😠 and put you down all the time and manipulates?

Is standing for one self with self respect against this elder person and stopping this happen is against dharma.

If some one who’s supposed to stand and take responsibility for you abandons or simply stays still during this process what to do with them should they be respected?

The first and foremost duty of man is develop oneself fully and consciously, and through that to fulfil the true purpose of one’s life. That is also the best help one can render to anybody.

Respect is not something that can be demanded or given simply because someone is older in age or a close relative. Rama killed Ravana who was older in age and Krishna killed Kansa, his own maternal uncle. So did the Divine Charioteer command Arjun to kill Bheesma who was both elder as well as grandsire. Respect is to be earned, naturally commanded by one’s life and words and actions, not something imposed by age. Dharma is to find and fulfil the true purpose of our human existence. Keeping one’s self respect intact is part of this.

Affectionately,

Alok Da

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I don’t think it has any deeper symbolic meaning. Looks more like a dip into the subconscient where the water is not tasty and the lights are dim. But it could also be…

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