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My father is very controlling. He has a habit of making decisions for us. I am 30 and I do not know how to say no to him or tell him to mind his own business?

There is no how to saying it. It has to be said and if one cannot say it then one simply accepts and bears the burden. One needs to understand that this kind of obedience is simply a lack of courage. It helps neither you nor your father. 

Affectionately,

Alok da.

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