Home » Children » Adult Children » My father is very controlling. He has a habit of making decisions for us. I am 30 and I do not know how to say no to him or tell him to mind his own business?
There is no how to saying it. It has to be said and if one cannot say it then one simply accepts and bears the burden. One needs to understand that this kind of obedience is simply a lack of courage. It helps neither you nor your father.
Affectionately,
Alok da.
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Arpan means to give, samarpan means to give completely without reserve.
To give means now one has left the situation, the difficulty, the problem entirely in the hands of the Divine. It means that one now obeys the Divine Will alone and lives no more for the satisfaction of one’s ego and desires….
Here is the complete Durga Stotra. You can see for yourself.
‘Hymn to Durga
(দুর্গা-স্তোত্র)
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Mother Durga! Rider on the lion, giver of all strength, Mother, beloved of Siva! We born from thy parts of Power, we the youth of India, are seated here in thy temple. Listen, O Mother, descend upon earth, make thyself manifest in this land of India.
Yes, these are dreams surging from the subconscient. Some, like the one about your friend seems a veiled wish fulfilment. Certain desires get exhausted subjectively in this way.