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Dear Alok Da, foremostly, Thank you for the platform. I have a question or may be an observation. Men (or boys) hold a soft corner for women who are Pretty and are (or act) naive and submissive (whereas at times they are manipulative and drawing undue benefits of men in their awe). But there is a visible difference in their behaviour and they act rudely and insensitively with women who are not so pretty, but bold and assertive. They have a presumed idea of her being a spoilt feminism brat and deserves to be dealt with roughly. Also they offer help to pretty women from their side with pleasure but choose to deny help even if the other kind of women ask them for help, taking it to be an unnecessary weight on them. Is it so important to be pretty and act gently (by dropping off boldness) just to win the collaboration of the counterpart especially at workplace😳?

There is possibly a truth in your observation except that it should not be generalised. If we look carefully it is not so much the

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I’m a very introverted person 😳and rarely share my feelings with others. Only one or two people truly know me well. I don’t even share anything with my parents, I often hold back because I fear the someone might copy my thoughts, ideas, or actions without giving me any credit. I also hesitate to invite people into my home, partly because I worry they might judge it, and partly because I’m afraid they’ll take ideas from my décor. I see my ideas as unique, and the thought of someone imitating them makes me uneasy. Please help me understand this better—are these two separate issues, or are they connected?

Nothing wrong with being an introvert but the thought that people may take your ideas should not be entertained. Ideas do not belong to anyone

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Some people lack enthusiasm in life and constantly say no to anything that might bring them joy like going out, enjoying a meal, or watching a movie. While I agree that such activities may not offer deeper or lasting happiness, they also show no interest in exploring higher or more meaningful experiences. Instead, they often sulk, complain, criticize others, and remain unhappy with everything in their lives😥.

Yes this is a kind of shrinking from life, a kind of tamas (inertia) and fear of getting out of comfort zones. As a result

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In yesterday’s question on marriage where parents emotionally blackmailing their child to get married you said it is extremely selfish act at its core but they also used to tell us like we are also becoming selfish by not fulfilling their wish. In such a scenario we really don’t have answer answer and such thoughts comes like are we also acting selfishly? Please guide whose demand is valid here😥?

There is a fundamental right given by the Divine to make our free choices and suffer the good or bad consequences. That is the whole

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A few days ago, I had a dream in which I saw that our stone mines were burning and white🫨, with a lot of stones. Last night, I had a similar dream in which I saw that a lot of white stones were extracted and sold for 500,000 rupees. My uncle took those stones. Other people were saying, “Can’t we take it now?” My father said, “It was bought earlier.” On the other side, my brother was saying, “What is the use of this? It only covers the expenses.” After that, a man was telling me how many more stones would be extracted in the future and how much money there is. Does this dream have any symbolic meaning?

Yes the dream does indicate that the Divine Force (fire) has begun to work in the area where you work. Its first action is to

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Invitation to Travel. Let’s cast off the moorings of the mind for the open sea.What is the difference between a mental solution and a spiritual solution? A mental solution to a conflict between two or more people will always be shaky and may become the cause of new problems, right? Seeking a mental solution is energy-consuming because we want to understand, and in order to understand, we can lose sleep. We think about it all the time! The difficulties encounter, the challenges are like goads. We go from involution to evolution⛵.

It is not just a question of consuming Time and Energy. It is a question of qualitative difference between the mental consciousness and the spiritual.

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Dada, my recent discussion with friends regarding mughal history removed from the syllabus. One of the argument that came up was that Hindu Emperor has also distriod Buddhist and Jain temples. Can you put light on this part. If they did there must be some reason to do so and how can I understand it with the point of view of Dharma🤨?

Yes, it is true that there was a time when Hindus and Buddhists and Jains fought against each other for religious and political supremacy. But

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Dada, can psychic love 💓 be stablish with the one who holds very opposite point of view and believes in different school of thought. The person seems very beautiful at heart and respectful in nature. But when it comes to connect with thoughts and believes they seems to hold reasoning mind quite strongly. What should be my attitude in such senario and how to go about it. Please guide dada 

Dada, can psychic love be stablish with the one who holds very opposite point of view and believes in different school of thought. The person

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