There is possibly a truth in your observation except that it should not be generalised. If we look carefully it is not so much the look or physical appearances but a kind of charm that some women as well as men carry around them which acts as a trigger to draw attention. This ‘charm’ is a mix of the vital as well as certain psychological qualities that gets communicated both through the appearances as a kind of subtle radiation as well as through voice and certain gestures, haav bhaav. However this kind of attraction doesn’t last, especially if it is purely vital in nature and not accompanied by psychological qualities that make a person truly beautiful. In fact a combination of outer beauty with inner very rare because quite often those who are apparently outwardly good looking tend to be puffed up with vanity and attention seekers. On the other hand those who lack it as if in a way to adapt develop beautiful inner qualities that are much more needed for a relationship to endure. So you see there is a recompense for everything. While looks may seem like an imitial advantage they do not work in the long run. Appearances change and generally there is a slow decline with age. Psychological qualities, on the other hand, grow and become even better and more refined with the passing years. This is true of both men and women. Unfortunately, some men and women turn the initial disadvantage of looks into a scar and become full of grudge and frustration which makes things worse since much more than outer appearances, it is the quality and capacity to be pleasant in speech, refined in thought and action, cheerfulness and a capacity to face life with wisdom and strength, above all a heart of love and tender care that matters much more. While appearances are genetics, the psychological qualities are in our hands to develop and become a complete man or a woman.
Affectionately,
Alok Da
