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Life Problems And Psychological Difficulties

Those who try to escape every problem—whether in work or relationships—by constantly jumping from one thing to another, or by using money as a shield, by constantly changing relationship, often justify their actions with the phrase, “I’m just being practical.” But is being practical always the right approach, especially when it comes to emotions🤨?

Practical should always be aligned to the Ideal. Practical does not mean throwing all ideals and idealism out of the window. It rather means finding

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I often end up keeping a lot of anger 😤inside myself. I don’t know where this pattern comes from, but I think the main reason is that I try to always avoid confrontations with people. Yet, the anger still remains inside as negativity and tension. Sometimes I envy people who can just freely express their anger at others without suppressing it in this way. I think part of the problem has also to do with moral upbringing — the notion that anger is bad and that you should be composed. What would you suggest me to do? Is learning to express your anger better than keeping it inside?

I don’t think inability to express anger is the cause of anger! You will have to see why anger arises at all in the first

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I’m a single woman living alone in a flat in a metro city. I feel very very cautious and very anxious due to this fact. I feel uneasy most of the time due to anxious 🫨look of uncouth people especially men around who are aware of the fact. So I feel very troubled about my safety and security. Also I want to overcome the very feeling and overcome ominous thoughts that trouble me. Also, I don’t have learnt techniques of self defense neither do I have any scope to learn it at this point of time.

Fear often attracts the feared. While caution is fine, one should never give the impression of being underconfident as it draws harmful forces near us.

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In the present modern time no one wants so-called liberation (moksha). Every civilized person having little knowledge about the Hindu concept of life will desire a blissful, strong and meaningful life for himself and family. How can we live such a life when we have so many weaknesses, fears and ignorance? I know we have to overcome them but how to do that? I don’t find myself capable of overcoming those things😳. [Conti]

Pray to Her with faith in Her Grace and surrender to Her Will. The Divine Mother acts in Her infinite freedom and Wisdom. She is

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When I finish work I can’t seem to switch off. I end up thinking about lots of things I missed in the chaos of hospital as we’re often seeing 2-3 sick patients at a given time. Then it affects my sleep, and I focus very hard at work, I make sure to get enough sleep, I read, walk, have quite a balanced external factors. But fresh out of graduation it’s inevitable things gets missed here and there, and if mistakes are picked up by seniors then they threaten to sue you🫨 [Conti]

First thing is to cultivate an inner quietude as it is only in a peaceful inner state that one can see better, think better, act

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One feels the basis of all good work in a solid peace that nothing can disturb. Just when you think you have attained some foundation in peace, something or the other attacks you and disturbs it all. How does one cultivate a peace independent of outward circumstances?  What are those required qualities or actions that need to be done🤔?

Yes thinking about it almost soon enough makes us vulnerable. Over the years the one perfect remedy I have felt and known is to shift

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Alok da how to get rid of these right, wrong, true, false, mental conception, ideas, thought which create a strong barrier towards the divine. How to be widening and plastic in every part of our being? Is it any state where the right, wrong, true, false will vanishes? Then how to achieve this state because in this narrowness I feel captive inside a cave😥.

It is neither possible nor advisable to drop off the dualities by a mental understanding that there is a higher state where they cease to

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I have been listening to you and reading collected works of mother which I have not finished yet and I aspire to walk on Sri Aurobindo’s Integral yoga path. My question is: despite everything i constantly feel the urge of becoming a mother which wasn’t there till I was 29..I keep aspiring but this urge constantly hit me. Can you put some light on it. How shall I overcome it😳?

The urge for motherhood is natural in women. It is a biological instinct strongly ingrained in us. If one ignores it for sometime it tends

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Pranam Alok da. I stay in Kolkata and I’ve been having the worst war anxiety. It’s been 6 months and I’ve been getting anxious 🫨about absolutely anything and everything from my external environment especially this month. I kept thinking something will happen to me or my family or my home. Before this, I’ve always had faith on the Mother but this time I’ve spiraled like never before. I’ve thought of the worst scenarios, imagined attacks on my home, haven’t let my family go out of the house even for work which is silly because we’re in Kolkata, which is far from the border.

How to stop such bad thoughts from coming in and more importantly, how to keep faith in such scenarios? Turn the mind away rather than

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Difficult situations in life should make one stronger, but it has happened the opposite in my case. I have become more fearful after facing those difficulties of the past. Now, I tremble🫨 at the thought of any further difficult situations coming my way. Just to mention here – I have been taking antipsychotics for the past 15.2 years.

Yes some people react with fear and once fear sets in it attracts what is feared creating thereby a vicious cycle. The solution is to

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