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Life Problems And Psychological Difficulties

What is your take on trauma bonding? I see few talking about how difficult there life has been and how they were neglected. Not denyingย  the trauma one has gone through.. but is there a possibility they are magnifyingย  it and accepting this it for others gratification and attention?? Teens doing that is also worrying.ย What do you think of this?๐Ÿคทโ€โ™‚๏ธ๐Ÿ’ฌ๐Ÿ˜ถโ€๐ŸŒซ๏ธโ“

Human beings almost invariably look at life from the lens of ignorance. They act and react based on their limited understanding and enter into a

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Life feels very hard Alok da. I often feel that nothing has amounted. much in any aspect of my life. Though I keep trying, disappointments. are almost the routine. As you can imagine, I am feeling exhausted. with all that pushing, all the series of frustrations. I don’t expect. life to be smooth, but it feels incredibly bumpy (something that I am reminded of also when I see most of the people around me, such as my peers, my relatives, my colleagues, my friends)โ›ˆ๏ธ๐Ÿ”„๐Ÿงฑ๐Ÿชซ

She is not only watching you but carrying you. How else are you able to navigate through it despite the challenges? However it is important

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I made a mistake in my life, and by the time I realised that I shouldnt have done that though i knew that somewhere i am not being loyal to the person i am with and i was fully drawn into my desires โ€ฆat one fine day everything got burnt . I couldnโ€™t save anything, so I moved forward slowly, resting in Motherโ€™s lap and offering everything I had done to everyone and myself. After two years, I made another mistakeโ€ฆ and today I am feeling deep fear. While offering things to Mother, I keep thinking how could I make the same kind of mistake again? ๐Ÿšถโ€โ™‚๏ธโž”๐Ÿ•ณ๏ธโž”๐Ÿ˜ฎโ€๐Ÿ’จ

The Divine does not see things as humans do. What we call as mistakes and errors are part of His plan to help us grow

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In relationships we often come across people who are manipulative, who project something a faded in front of you . Sometimes there is a feeling of deep resentment for such people. Mentally one knows that they are also a form of the divine in their own journey, but how to open your heart , develop love and respect??๐ŸŽญ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ๐ŸŒ€

We should not concern ourselves with what others think and do. It is their karma so to say and, it brings its own consequences in

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ย I am completely unemployed and when I am trying to study sincerely, I can’t do it. And I am depressed looking back on those 4 years which I have wested mindlessly doing nothing. Also, as I made no progress and wasted my time and energy in everything except study, now I became mentally and physically very weak. As I was always inclined to the Mother and Sri Aurobindo and quite involved in our branch’s activity, I don’t know how it has happened with me. Though I know that I am the only one responsible for this situation.๐Ÿ’ผโŒ๐ŸŒง๏ธ๐Ÿชซ๐Ÿ˜ฎโ€๐Ÿ’จ

The solution is actually very simple. Analysing why it happened, lamenting about the wasted time, looking back surely won’t help. If anything it will only

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Sir are there healing kriyas and yoga techniques in Sri Aurobindo ashram to help people overcome these challenges. Depression and migraine and extreme loneliness and sadness is something I am battling for the last 5-6 years intensely but not have been able to get out of even with medications.๐Ÿง˜โšก๐ŸŒ€โค๏ธโ€๐Ÿฉน

The Ashram is primarily meant for a higher spiritual evolution. There are no kriyas etc that are taught to overcome these problems. What is adviced

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Sir how do we get clarity and guidance from the mother for our worries and depression. What is that step by step method of proper prayer to her? Also how to get rid of fear and worries related to career and financial aspect of life? Will the mother take care of us if we devote to her. I have actually almost run out of all my savings in learning different types of meditation techniques, yagya participation and books of various spiritual organisation across India. But still I have not got any proper clarity as to which is that one path or guru whom should I follow. And I still fear as to where my spiritual journey is heading..๐ŸŒง๏ธ๐ŸŒ€๐Ÿง ๐Ÿชซ๐Ÿ˜ฐ

Spiritual journey is not undertaken to cure depression, anxiety or getting material success or for that matter anything of the worldly nature. One can pray

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My question is why amongst the all methods only this most simple imagination that you have suggested worked? Sir, I listened to one of your talk on getting rid of lower movements, I have been facing the same problem in a big way, amongst the all is the sexual lust, it the single most and the worst and hardest thing to get rid of, just like a man sweeps his room and all the corner but the dust and pollution is in the environment, so I also dealing with it by different methods but these methods were not working properly with me,..๐ŸŒช๏ธ ๐ŸŒŠ๐Ÿ•ท๏ธ ๐Ÿ•ธ๏ธ๐ŸŒ‹

It is always the Grace that works when the time comes and it can use any means and methods, including the most seemingly paradoxical for

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Over the past decade I have faced far too many personal & professional failures. Nothing I seek is seeking me, in fact its getting repelled from me the moment I start working towards it. I’m loosing my faith in the world, I see myself alienating from almost everyone. I’m a well meaning, truthful and soul curious person. What’s happening to me? Is this a sign for me to leave the material world?๐Ÿ“‰๐Ÿคฆโ€โ™‚๏ธ๐Ÿ”„โŒโœ๏ธ

It is the moment to reckon the truth that you are perhaps not marked for the things that you are seeking in ignorance. It is

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Sir from the last 4 months I have been taking medicines for severe depression. And now I am fed up. Everytime I am getting suicidal thoughts of killing myself totally and ending everything. I am not able to comprehend as what is right for me. Sir i am fed up with these medicines and I have lost all my self confidence and i really don’t know what life holds for me. I have been practicing Mantra sadhana and meditation and kriyas also praying to the mother but I am not getting any answers. Sir plzz help me come out of this situation,ย  I want to do good work for the world and my parents as they have done so much for me. But now I am down with such severe depression and also whatever I am studying i am not able to retain the concepts. Even the hardest of things I am finding very difficult to do. Even the hardest of things I am finding very difficult to do. Plzz help me come out of it as I don’t want to live like this.๐ŸŒง๏ธ๐Ÿง‘โ€โš•๏ธ๐Ÿ’Š๐Ÿชซ

As to the medicines I will not advice you to stop them. You should continue them in consultation with your doctor.

Now if you

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I’ve always been wondering that our current suffering has got anything to do with our past life sin. I just want to know about this because I’ve been suffering from mental illness. I’ve always wanted to commit suicide. I don’t like this life at all. One day I’ve had almost tried to kill myself but something was stopped me. I was also sexually assaulted by men. Is it also related to my past life sin๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ’€๐Ÿ–ค๐Ÿฅ€?

Sin is a human invention. The sense of sin and guilt played a role at some point of time in our social evolution. But they

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