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Parenting

Bhaiya My sister has an overprotective instinct for her daughter. She doesn’t allow her to go for a movie with boys. She doesn’t allow her to wear modern outfits, and she used to tell her to do all these things once you get a job. Due to which she asked me a question: is it right to do all these things without asking for permission, or else she will wait until she gets a job? Please advice what should be the right attitude should she take😄

It is not a question of doing things with or without permission but doing them consciously and knowing the implications of our actions. One should

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I’m 35 now, and I find myself sitting with a tender and important question: whether or not to have a child.When I was 33, I was going through a deep process of separation from my teacher, like a mother. During that time, the desire to have a baby started to surface—it even began to appear in my paintings. It felt like a natural longing [conti]

It is surely possible to do both, raise a beautiful child as well as pursue your ideal in the field of health and healing. But

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How to decide whether to have kids or no? On one hand I am worried about my ability to be a good father while even struggling to take up responsibility of being a good partner, good son. On the other, it feels so much joy to think about upbringing a child in the world. There is also a factor of my wife’s age (35) which sort of brings this question to urgent. I grew up where my parents fought a lot and they still do. Me and my wife too have our set of fights.. But we do consciously strive to get better.. and we are..But the fights and shouting at times does happen. What would happen to the child? Cannot expect for this to go away like a switch. I am not sure how to think about all of this altogether😄.

The coming of a child no doubt brings joy but also a lot of responsibility. The decision has to be taken consciously based on whether

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Alok da, since last 15 days we are struggling to make our 11 year old sleep in his own room, though he sleeps in his room every other night he come and sleep with us, we have tried everything but he wants me to make him sleep and even after that he gets up and wants me to put him to sleep again in the middle of the night, we feel it’s high time that he needs to sleep on his own, Please advice😳.

Yes children should begin to sleep by themselves by 5. In India, due to stronger emotional bonding and family attachment it takes longer. In any

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Alok da, the other day my son came from school and he was so irritated he had to do a write up on Mahatma Ghandhi and he just did not want to, he said I have had it ahimsa and all that, then I remember that when I was a child I myself was irritated to study about him, all that was do boring and then why son asked me why is he even called the father of the nation ? And I know studying ghandhi ji is so boring oh these dharam karam ki baatein as a teenager I could not relate to him, he is not like Shivaji or Rama or Krishna or Sri Aurobindo.. what should I tell himā€¦šŸ¤”?

You can tell him that everyone has his own ideas and so did Gandhi ji have his own. As far as his ideas go, they

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Alok da, some time back I had an argument with my mother as she said I was rude with my brother and so first I told her she is making a big deal while me and my brother are fine and then the argument got into shouting when she was lecturing me about being an elder sibling and my responsibility blah blah blah and when I told her that, “Well please first see how you both are with your siblings and the example you set then tell me”, and I know that I am much better and more responsible than them😠, so of course the situation went out of hand and she created a tantrum for a week, I know I was not in the wrong but I am just curious how can this situation be handled better? Can a child not tell a parent that you should practice before you preach?Ā 

Certainly one should be free to discuss freely and frankly with parents, teachers, elders everyone. Nachiketa, Prahlad, Lakshman, Sita are all examples among many others.

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