The Mother was not against being firm to help the child form good habits and discipline. Scolding, especially with anger distorts a child’s consciousness. He either reacts with fear or with revolt. Both are harmful. Softness can be corrected through games, adventure activities, sports etc but hardness is much more difficult. Besides as children move up the ladder of evolution they become sensitive to vibrations which teachers and elders do not understand. So though outwardly it is an elder scolding or shouting down a child, it gets translated in the child’s consciousness as a wild animal attacking a human. They feel scared and if persisted with it scars and child. Some children these days give it back, others just keep the anger within which gets released at home or sublimated through sport. It is the teachers and such elders who need to be educated. The children need to grow strong and courageous but not through scolding but games and sports.
Affectionately,
Alok Da
