AT THE FEET OF THE MOTHER

Relationships

Me and my wife used to fight a lot on various things….we went through this phase for more than 4-5 years. Two major points of our fights was (1) me not being straightforward in my communication and actions (2) Me not being like her father. We went through therapy and a lot of hard times to get through that phase and now we are kind of over it. Now she blames me for being too straight forward and being too much like her dad. Please advice what should I do…..I can’t go back to being to old person I was😬?

Instead of trying to be what your wife or someone else would want you to be, try to discover what you are and want to

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In a recent Suicide case where man has demanded a huge maintenance from wife does it show the limitations of law where woman has all the rights for false allegations and exercise their rights in wrong manner? This is what it is said Marriage as an institution and Man nowdays are very afraid to become a part of such venture where is suppose women loose her interest or some other reason want to take divorce and ask for alimony and maintenance inspite of having job. Don’t to you think this marriage is more risky gamble for Man now since laws are also not very supportive for them? Is it better to avoid marriage😡?

Fear and suspicion are never a good counsel. Men and women both are known for low and cheap behaviors. This cannot change by law but

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I read two texts from the Mother’s writings regarding human love💗. (1) One was from CWM Vol 12 under the topic “The Four Austerities and The Four Liberations.”From “For one who has known love for the Divine, all other forms of love are obscure and too mixed with pettiness and egoism and darkness;” ….. to……”This concentration will culminate in an integral identification and will be instrumental to the supramental realisation upon earth.”

In both these the Mother is revealing to us the different stages of love. The love that is centred around the body and the vital,

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My ideology for Relationship and Marriage is very much changed after turning towards this path. I think this should be beautiful and harmonious and there should be some common ground between you and your partner. But friends and relatives outside usually say u need to do adjustment in marriage or relationship because nobody is perfect. I think if we need to do adjustment only or just for the sack of doing it then what is the sense i think its better to live single rather then doing adjustment😫.

Whatever may have been its high origin in the Vedic age when Rishis and Rishikas came together for a greater purpose, marriage has become today,

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I want to ask if it is considered a sin to have a relationship or friendship while staying in the ashram? I live in pondy with my mother, who also works here in ashram. I have a friend, but my mother doesn’t like him. Whenever I meet him or do something against her wishes, she gets angry, abuses me, and starts fighting with me. I lose control of myself during these fights and end up crying😭.

Getting angry, screaming, fighting are far worse things than friendship. Friendship has never been a taboo in the Ashram as long as it doesn’t lead

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It has thus happened that whenever I have prayed for proximal presence of someone or something, I have suffered and regretted…as things have taken ugly turns later on..even it’s said, ” Marriage was erected on the tomb of Love😧” so it’s wise to not get married to the one you love..thus this way it’s not wise to marry at all…also I can easily find many unsuccessful marriages around. So now even if I seek the proximity of my beloved (seek to express my love for him through feelings, words and services) in life but I feel afraid to pray for their proximal presence in my life in anticipation of the bond between us getting ruined if that happens.

Marriages do not work out as we expect them to do because of the gap between the ideal and the strength and sacrifice needed to

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