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Life Problems And Psychological Difficulties

I’m a very introverted person 😳and rarely share my feelings with others. Only one or two people truly know me well. I don’t even share anything with my parents, I often hold back because I fear the someone might copy my thoughts, ideas, or actions without giving me any credit. I also hesitate to invite people into my home, partly because I worry they might judge it, and partly because I’m afraid they’ll take ideas from my décor. I see my ideas as unique, and the thought of someone imitating them makes me uneasy. Please help me understand this better—are these two separate issues, or are they connected?

Nothing wrong with being an introvert but the thought that people may take your ideas should not be entertained. Ideas do not belong to anyone

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Some people lack enthusiasm in life and constantly say no to anything that might bring them joy like going out, enjoying a meal, or watching a movie. While I agree that such activities may not offer deeper or lasting happiness, they also show no interest in exploring higher or more meaningful experiences. Instead, they often sulk, complain, criticize others, and remain unhappy with everything in their lives😥.

Yes this is a kind of shrinking from life, a kind of tamas (inertia) and fear of getting out of comfort zones. As a result

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Alok da, how does one flourish and use spiritual values at a toxic workplace? Especially when your seniors are ensuring that you are crushed for being on the right side in a place ethics are violated, especially those very seniors ensure that lackeys are given power over you so that one’s morale and courage is destroyed and one falls in line. How does one act spiritually in a workplace as bad as that🤨?

The spiritual consciousness remains completely indifferent to the human play in ignorance. It watches it as the means lower nature uses for its purposes, itself

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One feels the basis of all good work in a solid peace that nothing can disturb. Just when you think you have attained some foundation in peace, something or the other attacks you and disturbs it all. How does one cultivate a peace independent of outward circumstances?  What are those required qualities or actions that need to be done🤔?

Yes thinking about it almost soon enough makes us vulnerable. Over the years the one perfect remedy I have felt and known is to shift

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I feel that by nature, my mind is quite restless. I don’t find comfort in peaceful or quiet places. For instance, when I once visited Samadhi, I stepped out almost immediately, I just couldn’t bear the silence. I’ve tried meditation too, but it didn’t work for me. I think the reason is that I came to materialistic pleasures a bit later in life, so my mindset is: let me enjoy them first. Maybe, once I grow tired of all this, I’ll begin to seek peace. Perhaps only then will I truly understand the value of Samadhi. In my understanding, spirituality is equal to peace😥.

One never gets tired of pleasure except temporarily. Pleasures, whether material or vital, are like an addiction. It satiates temporarily but never satisfies. It returns

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Why do people say that money can’t buy happiness or peace? With money, we can buy branded things that bring joy. We can fulfill parents’ dreams and our own. We can afford all the material comforts we desire, and these things make us feel happy and content. If we want to visit the Ashram, we can easily go, and that gives us peace. Money gives us the freedom to travel the world, which also brings happiness and peace. So, doesn’t money actually make it easier to experience these things🙄?

Of course if buying branded cloth, traveling around the world, fulfilling parent’s dreams and material comforts is all that one seeks then surely money may

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I often feel pressured to get married, buy a house, a car, and follow all the typical expectations society sets. Even though deep down I’m not someone who genuinely wants marriage, I still get influenced when I see others tying the knot, having children, and making good money. It sometimes makes me question my own choices 😥and the direction of my life. They seem to be living happy, fulfilling lives and that sometimes leaves me wondering if I’m missing out.

First thing needed is be clear about the goal of one’s life. Whether marraige can give happiness or not is a later consideration. First thing

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