Ask Alok da
We know of so many people who are facing impossible situations and problems and they are helpless. They do not know what to do or whom to ask.
This is a dedicated site for those who are searching for answers, who want to break from their present repeating circles of life and looking for answers that will understand them, help them find a new way-a new solution towards life beautiful and Divine.
How to Be Strong in Dealing with Family Life. My sister-in-law is unhappy that we don’t talk to her proactively. I don’t find it natural to start conversations with her. My spiritual teacher helped her a lot in the past, but it backfired on her. When I was getting married, she advised me to keep my distance. She is 39, unmarried, and has childhood trauma related to her parents. I want to support her, but I feel drained in the process. She often complains that my husband and I don’t talk to her enough. I can feel her pain, but I don’t know how to support her in a healthy way😥 [conti]
One should not try to help unless one is very clear about what is the real reason of her problem. Whatever be the past issues
I would like to share an experience with you. There are moments quite often that when I think about the divine or Sri Aurobindo’s words or Mother’s love, tears start coming out. These tears are not of sorrow or happiness or a cry, but It tries to remind me of my ultimate goal which is self realisation and wishes me to see the divine in all its creation. It feels like the truth wants to be expressed through me but it is only able to do so. It gives me a strength and the will to fight for the truth. What feeling is this and why do I cry🥹?
It is a psychic feeling, a soul remembrance and is a sign that you are ready for the true spiritual life.
We will not solve the problem by relying on our small means, limited by the mind and the ego. Rational intelligence alone does not have the keys and it misses the essential. The non-dualist Advaidists (Nisargadatta, Ramana Maharshi, J. Krishnamurti, Papaji) speak from their partial realization and their Western disciples despair, because what they aspire to never happens. J. Krishnamurti said: “I have spoken for 50 years and no one has really understood what I wanted to say”. Let us pray that divine Grace enlightens us🙏.
Yes. The basis of our hopes is the Divine Grace. Let us put our faith entirely in the Grace and leave the rest to the
While concentration on my heart centre, I feel strong presence of calmness. Is it due to the psychic presence or the emotional chakra at heart💓?
The peace and calm are invariably due to the psychic being opening the doors to the Divine Presence within. The opening of the emotional center
Sir, is it wrong to do sex with my wife, though we have two young children and we don’t need any more🤨?
From the spiritual point of view with wife has the same effect on consciousness as with someone else, as far as the act itself is
What is the importance of Brahmacharya in the Integral Yoga? which is a life accepting and not shunning, In traditional Yoga they speak of Eight aspects of Brahmacharya which consists of complete shunning of all the contacts with the opposite gender, such as don’t even look at a person with other gender etc. But this kind of practices are not compatible for person living in the city life. So how to practice celibacy from standpoint of Integral Yoga🤔?
Sri Aurobindo’s Integral Yoga is indeed a life-embracing Yoga but it embraces life with the view of transforming it. It does not advocate perpetuating the
On our spiritual inclination, we meditate. How can we Differentiate between delusion and visions? How can we be sure that it’s not some sort of hebephrenic episode🤔?
A person having delusions and hallucinations does not questions them as he is fully convinced about them. In any case these are terms we use
I have been having a lot of dreams lately. One of it was about a fire 🔥, coming towards me while I am going in car to USA for my career. I try to dodge it, but it grows and I have to take a U-turn and return home and after reaching there, the fire stops. Other than this, I had multiple dreams of me in Pondicherry in and around ashram, or near samadhi. I although haven’t been able to physically visit Pondicherry yet. I am battling with the marital issues and in USA as of now. Please help me understand the dreams.
The dream is very clear. It is an objectivisation of your problems and the guidance being provided by your soul through your inner being. It
I want to know about the practice of Tratak?What is the right method of doing it and how does it help in self realisation? Or does it help in finding your own truth?🤨
Tratak does not necessarily helps in self-realisation, at least not directly. Its main help is to train the mind in concentration. Self realisation comes by
‘Each problem exists not by itself, but in relation to all the others, and the solution, to be true, must neglect none of them.’ -The Mother (CWM 20) Alok Da please explain🤔
It means that instead of piecemeal solution we must consider all sides of a problem so that we may arrive at a more comprehensive solution.
I feel like my life has been full of hardships and struggles. Nothing ever comes to me easily, while others seem to get the same things effortlessly. And even when I finally do receive what I wanted, I don’t truly enjoy it because when I needed it the most, it wasn’t there. In the end, I do get everything, but it often feels too late to matter😥. [conti]
Some lives are marked out for struggle, others for fruition. That is the whole idea of rebirth, a constant progress wherein the inner wealth we
Does one’s dharma stay the same over multiple rebirths🤨?
Dharma has three connotations and none of them refers to religion. The first connotation refers to the eternal and unchanging basis of everything. That of
“Some men in their blindness , when they seek knowledge, forsake the light where they are – only to enter into what is for them a new darkness “Alok da can you pls elaborate on this☝️ with practical examples in daily life🙏
Practically it means that instead of leaving the worldly life and the knowledge it brings to pursue the spiritual one should deepen and widen this
Is it ok to get distracted by curiosity? because I want to know more about other countries of the world. not necessarily politics but how people from different cultures are living. There are 195 countries in the world. I feel so small when I think about this and it brings a lot of clarity to live my life with this in mind. I know Mother is taking care of all, so I do not think too much about the negative conditions they are in anymore. It only makes me feel grateful for what I have. I feel my academic progress is moving too slowly as I was wasting a lot of time in the past, now I am feeling the effects of it. I want to make up for all the lost time as quickly as possible and be able to help the world and be an instrument of Mother. I don’t know yet what my ikigai is. I know this means to help myself/make the inner progress first. To be honest I feel I am doing the best I can in the moment, but I know I can do better also so I’m often in a state of narcissism and worry. How do I not get distracted and focus on the academics🤨?
Knowing about different countries and cultures is a good thing. It brings wideness. Curiosity is not necessarily bad. World knowledge is part of the total
Recently my granddad passed away on mother side suddenly and I had a dream of my mother running away from me before that happened night. It scared me a lot and that day. Now I dreamt of meeting and old frnd who is abroad in that grandparents home and they were getting ready for a marriage she and her sister. She tells me to pass bangles and they were the purest blue bangles. Then say now I’ll leave as you are busy. But she was not from that home. But I bid bye to her. I felt not good after waking as at this place recently someone passed away. Am I thinking too much I have inate fears of things and dying and ghosts and pain and overthink a lot about all this When dreams like this come, I get scared a lot😱
There is nothing to be scared of. Possibly the dream itself is a fear of losing things given by parents or grandparents. But I am
The supreme mother is full of paradoxes. She is both with form and without form, both prideful and free of pride, both the creator of ignorance and its destroyer. In every scripture, She is described with opposing attributes. Why this contradiction😏?
There is no contradiction in Her but it is to the limited mind’s way of seeing that it appears as contradictions. In fact everything in
Divine chooses His instruments from time to time whenever there is a great threat to a nation or world then why Divine did not choose any strong leader like Sardar Vallabh bhai Patel to lead India rather than weak leaders like Gandhiji and Nehru? Because of such weak leaders India suffered partition, lost its land to both Pakistan and China and is suffering till now😡
The Divine does not work arbitrarily in a vacuum. The will of the people and their free choice is an important aspect of the Divine