AT THE FEET OF THE MOTHER
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We know of so many people who are facing impossible situations and problems and they are helpless. They do not know what to do or whom to ask.Ā 

This is a dedicated site for those who are searching for answers, who want to break from their present repeating circles of life and looking for answers that will understand them, help them find a new way-a new solution towards life beautiful and Divine.

How can I guide and support my younger sibling during his college placement season? While many of his peers are already getting placed in companies, my sibling is taking a bit longer. Sometimes this makes him feel discouraged because of peer pressure and the competitive environment. How should I motivate him, help him stay confident, and guide him in improving his preparation without losing hopešŸ¤”?

Your understanding and being with him is itself a big support. We may not be always able to change outer circumstances the way we wish

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Yesterday I had a dream that I and my two friends who were practicing yoga, all three of us went to Gurudev and bowed down at his feet, after that we left. As soon as we were about to go down the stairs, I looked at Gurudev and shouted loudly that I want to surrender completely, how should I do it, then he called me back and then he took me to the room, there he stood behind me and lifted me from behind and put his chin on my spine and I screamed 😱from within, then he brought me down again and said that your system was not aligned for super conscious power, then he had some black device, he took a photo from it and tried to show it to me, but it did not come in it, then he brought a book in his hand and taught me two things in it, the first was “Guru Govind Do Khade Kha Ke Lagi Pahi” and the second was “Those who follow the orders of others go backwards”. Then I said should I read that book, then he wrote on the top of that book 16th (meaning of which I did not understand). After that I said that I get orders during meditation, understand. I don’t know which is right and which is wrong, so he said pray, so I said I will hand it over to you, before doing that he said yes, then he bowed down at his feet and started to leave, I said it is dark, should I switch on the light of the room, but he refused, after that when I started to leave there were a lot of shoes lying there and I was in a hurry, my friends were waiting for me, where are my shoes, but I was not able to find my shoes. Apart from this, when I was with Gurudev, even then I felt inside me that he is waiting for me outside. And after waking up in the morning I was feeling that presence. What can be the meaning of this Dada?

By guru ji are you referring to Sri Aurobindo? It is quite an unlikely way of his relating. I think you should read Sri Aurobindo

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My parents are asking me to start thinking about finding a man to date and eventually marry. They are nudging me to meet men. I was recently talking to one guy that I met while on a run. He stopped me and asked for my number and based on looks I gave it to him. We started to go running together and when I would go study on weekends he would join me. He is 4 years younger and now went back to college which is about 4 hours away so we were talking over text and phone, but today, on a call he asked me some questions about the future and I told him the situation with my parents about them wanting me to find a husband and the other factor which is race / ethnicity. The one I was talking to is of African and Mexican descent and I figured even though my parents are accepting, that it would cause some issues which I don’t want to deal with. Despite us getting along so well and him treating me like a princess, when I told him today he got very upset about it. Now I am not feeling inclined to reach back out and fight for it because he’s pretty upset and it feels pointless since I’ve made up my mind that I will listen to my parents / find an Indian man for them, but I also wonder if I made a mistake because I was afraid of family reactions and considering I did have feelings for him😄 [conti]

I understand your situation. But you must remove certain misconceptions about marraige. There are no ready made partners. Relationships have to be built and it

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A couple of weeks ago I asked you about the problem of a long distance relationship. You encouraged me to continue it as it would give a chance of refining the relationship to a higher level without the bondage of marriage. Still, at this stage it feels like work, and there is little satisfaction that I feel. I realised we are so different that we have few things to talk about when we are not physically present with each other. Even other people told me that it’s obvious that I’m not in love with the girl, and if I was I wouldn’t be speaking in this way. It is mostly my idealism that made me commit to her in this way, because I couldn’t bear the thought of hurting her😄

It is obvious that one should not engage in a relationship if one is not happy about it or doesn’t feel love. There is nothing

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You explained it in such a wonderful way, and I have gained a lot of understanding from it. when you said, “Spirituality and the spiritual paths are not like colleges where one goes to earn a degree or get some result. Spiritual life is a vast unfolding of each one’s unique divine possibility with no reference or comparison with anyone else”Ā You have touched me deeply, and I am very grateful for answering all my questions with your love šŸ™

You have a beautiful heart. May your faith and aspiration grow and the Divine Mother guide you in…

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Alok da this is problem with many parents not just us end of the day me and my husband are exhausted but our son is full of energy. He just does not want to sleep though we have a bed time but he keeps on delaying it and he just does not get tired in spite of him doing sports and going to school… so we are sleep deprived due to this situation. What should we do😄?Ā 

Yes children are full of energy and they absorb a lot of energy from everything around them. It needs to be channelised as well as

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Is there a place for conscious & kind intimacy in the spiritual journey? Why is there such a stigma to sex in the spiritual domain? Why does Indian society feel ashamed of this subject? When the idol of Shiv & Shakti itself symbolises linga & yoni in a constant sacred union bringing the balance of stillness and movement in this universe😲

The stigma of sex was not unique to Indian Society. You might have heard about the phrase Victorian morality as late as early 1900s, the

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A few days ago I was on a trip to South India. During this time I got to see many temples of Goddess Gayatri in almost all the cities like Visakhapatnam, Hyderabad, Bangalore and Mysore etc. Goddess Gayatri is worshipped along with Shiva, Ganesha, Kartikeya and Sriyantra in all the temples except the Mysore Palace. This surprised me as I have known the Goddess as a power that illuminates. I am wondering what could be the rationale behind this which seems to be against the scriptures. Can you please shed some light on this😊?

The worship of goddess Gayatri is relatively new. I am not sure when these temples were built because in ancient scriptures you here so much

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Why did God choose the designs He did? Like I understand the beauty and I’m in awe of uplifting it to His majesty… but why is a rose red? Why does the atom look the way it does? Why is the Sun round? Or, is it that these are just what are limited senses are yet able to perceive and there are more shapes, colours, and designs our senses are not yet tuned to🤨?

The forms and colours in the world have been conceived through the eye of an Artist and given shape and figure through the hands of

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