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Alok da, since last 15 days we are struggling to make our 11 year old sleep in his own room, though he sleeps in his room every other night he come and sleep with us, we have tried everything but he wants me to make him sleep and even after that he gets up and wants me to put him to sleep again in the middle of the night, we feel it’s high time that he needs to sleep on his own, Please advice😳.

Yes children should begin to sleep by themselves by 5. In India, due to stronger emotional bonding and family attachment it takes longer. In any

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For a while now, I’ve been thinking what if there were a reversal of roles between Sri Ram and Sri Krishna, keeping rest of the circumstances same! In what ways would they have taken the decisions differently, how different would have been the choices made differently- How would have been Krishnayan and Srimad Bhagwadam and Mahabharat happened differently🤔?

It is not just a reversal of role but the change of times, that is also important. Each Yug has its own dharma. What is

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Sri Aurobindo’s Yoga gives the least importance to worship and rituals. Rather it excludes them. Then why did our sages devise so many rituals? Why did they advise us to worship many gods? I believe that these worships and rituals must have some great benefits, otherwise our sages should not have invented them. Your kind thoughts🤔.

Everything has its place, its role and its function in the grand scheme of things. Rituals were used by certain rishis to invoke and propitiate

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Dear Alok Da, foremostly, Thank you for the platform. I have a question or may be an observation. Men (or boys) hold a soft corner for women who are Pretty and are (or act) naive and submissive (whereas at times they are manipulative and drawing undue benefits of men in their awe). But there is a visible difference in their behaviour and they act rudely and insensitively with women who are not so pretty, but bold and assertive. They have a presumed idea of her being a spoilt feminism brat and deserves to be dealt with roughly. Also they offer help to pretty women from their side with pleasure but choose to deny help even if the other kind of women ask them for help, taking it to be an unnecessary weight on them. Is it so important to be pretty and act gently (by dropping off boldness) just to win the collaboration of the counterpart especially at workplace😳?

There is possibly a truth in your observation except that it should not be generalised. If we look carefully it is not so much the

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I’m a very introverted person 😳and rarely share my feelings with others. Only one or two people truly know me well. I don’t even share anything with my parents, I often hold back because I fear the someone might copy my thoughts, ideas, or actions without giving me any credit. I also hesitate to invite people into my home, partly because I worry they might judge it, and partly because I’m afraid they’ll take ideas from my décor. I see my ideas as unique, and the thought of someone imitating them makes me uneasy. Please help me understand this better—are these two separate issues, or are they connected?

Nothing wrong with being an introvert but the thought that people may take your ideas should not be entertained. Ideas do not belong to anyone

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Some people lack enthusiasm in life and constantly say no to anything that might bring them joy like going out, enjoying a meal, or watching a movie. While I agree that such activities may not offer deeper or lasting happiness, they also show no interest in exploring higher or more meaningful experiences. Instead, they often sulk, complain, criticize others, and remain unhappy with everything in their lives😥.

Yes this is a kind of shrinking from life, a kind of tamas (inertia) and fear of getting out of comfort zones. As a result

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