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Life Problems And Psychological Difficulties

I have a really big problem. I’ve been through lots in life and when it just seemed to get a little brighter again its sort of plunged. And I feel so weak at heart, not because of anybody else but myself. I have everything in life outwardly, but I was so depressed before. Then I had a psychic opening and everything became light and sun, but I’ve lost it now and this time I’m in some deep darkness that is worse than anything I’ve felt before. [Conti]

The first thing is to stop believing in the night and get into the mire of self-blame, guilt etc which only makes matters worse. There

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There’s something very fascinating about the apocalyptic imagery to the human mind from ancient flood mythologies to the fascination with nuclear armageddon, something in the spirit craves destruction and blowing it all up, Many actually crave Kali’s dance of destruction. How to understand this psychological impulse and phenomenon😐?

Yes, human mind is always caught between these two forces, Love and Death. Love gives birth to new life, nurtures and nourishes it, releases the

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My grandmother is a very pessimistic and depressive person. And I noticed that relating tends to attract some accidents and bad luck in my life. She always says things like “I don’t wanna live”. But because she is so alone in life I feel a certain sense of guilt if I don’t relate to her and speak with her more often. Am I a heartless person if I choose not to sympathize with her self-pity and thus stay away😥?

Each one is responsible for what they do, the attitudes they take and the inevitable consequences they have to go through. No one can undo

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I am in a very trapped situation😩, I love someone and he also loves me but he is married and now has a son too, my family came to know about it, he tells me that you will commit a sin, you will have to face the curse of that boy, on top of this I love him a lot but I am not able to accept his son, I am not able to understand what is the true Dharma for me, I am praying to The Mother again and again but am not getting any answer.

Love has little to do with wants and cravings and desires. These things distort the true movement of love and hence almost invariably lead to

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Old age is often called second childhood and we see the elderly expressing their repressed desires when they are of a ripe age❄️. They seem to become especially vulnerable and act more and more child-like as they near their death. What are the ways in which we can cultivate a luminous attitude while we are relatively young, so that we remain sane, healthy and balanced even when we turn old and keep serving the Divine and live under the Divine Grace constantly?

The best attitude is to keep the face turned towards the future, to always want to learn something, know something, do something new or do

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I feel completely lost and depressed. Nothing in my life is going the way I want. My job isn’t giving me the financial stability I desire, and no matter how hard I try, I feel stuck. My wife left me, my girlfriend left me, and I have no one to turn to. I come home to an empty space, and it feels unbearable. Sometimes, I don’t even want to come home at all, I just want to disappear. The loneliness is crushing. I long for a life partner, someone to stand by me, but no one ever stays. Is it wrong to want that? Is it too much to ask for someone who truly cares? I drink just to escape these thoughts, but the pain always comes back. I don’t know how much longer I can keep going like this.

First thing first. Nothing and nobody is or should be more important than your own life and progress, unless you are in love, which is

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Why this happens ? when you deeply long for certain things—whether it’s a relationship or something else in life—you desire it with all your heart, but you also want it now. You feel restless, thinking, what’s the point if I get it after a few years or in old age? I need it now, I crave it desperately now, I don’t want it later😪.

It is the usual way that the vital desire and the ego-self operates. It thinks only about oneself and the want, like in a state

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“Follow your passion” some people say. I am stuck a little. I have a broad direction in which I want my life to develop — in service of the nation. At the same time, the scope of different careers is so wide that I don’t know what is best for me! A part of me wants to study something very practical which will enable me to realise this vision even if I don’t like the subject in and of itself (for example, studying finance). Another part of me wants me to do something that I would intrinsically enjoy studying (for example, music or history). However, I doubt whether choosing this path will enable me to develop the skills or knowledge that will be of much use when it comes to making impactful change in society. Can you suggest how I can develop clarity on this? I definitely agree with people who say that you can only succeed in and be happy doing something that you feel passionate about. But isn’t this idea slightly overrated? Shouldn’t one be able to enjoy and succeed in whatever one does, no matter what it is? Even if it’s not something one enjoyed doing as a child or doesn’t have a natural predisposition towards😠?

We should first differentiate between what we are naturally drawn towards by our innate temperament and predilection. It is more of an inborn inclination whose

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I’m preparing for medical entrance examinations. But sir I can not understand what is reality behind all these things? An unknown thought kills me always😨. I can not keep balance in between my mind thoughts and my heart suggestions. But I firmly believe in The Mother. I know she will definitely guide me on me life path. But always I feel guilty that am I doing anything wrong. I can sometimes identify my mistakes but can’t overcome them. They always trap me with here and there thoughts. Sir what should I do. I want to read more and more but the real things. I read my study books but can’t link them. I don’t get the real joy of study. Sir please give me some suggestions

First of all there is no place for guilt. We constantly grow and as we grow we re evaluate life and learn and improve. This

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Da, can I know the eternal truth of life? I and my family are suffering from many types of worries. Probably we forgot how to get rid of all these pains suffering. It is so disappointing that we can not know what we are doing. Especially I can’t understand myself. I have a lot of queries. What should I do at this time? All the vital forces trapped me and my family. Please show me the right path😥 

If you are besieged with difficulties then try to go deep and understand their nature. Difficulties are in fact concealed opportunities for growth. they challenge

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