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Life Problems And Psychological Difficulties

I’m not doing any work and staying at home all day. I tried working, as I had told you earlier that I went to the mines, but everyone there was drinking alcohol, and I became sick. I don’t know if I’m becoming lazy and dodging work or if I simply don’t want to do all of this. It feels like living for money is a selfish life, and I don’t want to live like that. If I do any work apart from serving God, it feels futile to me😥

Work is indispensable for progress. Selfishness is an inner attitude and not in the work that one does. Of course doing sewa (service to the

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How should I deal with fighting for the truth while being selfless. Should I focus on assertiveness while giving my point and not letting the ego come in front. What happens is that the other person always tries to prove himself / herself right by being angry or being loud which I cant do. How should I confront such people while surrendering😥?

Truth is very difficult to know, even more difficult than understanding its foster child Justice. It is hidden within layers after layers and while it

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What causes restlessness, lately I feel very restless there is a sense of weird urgency as there is some I should be doing but I am not getting a hold of it. My 9 to 5 feels suffocating as if a part of me resisting to be bound to a place and time. In a recent talk you Mentioned Jonathan livingston Seagull, I read it and it is one of the best books I have ever read. Dada I would love for you to suggest similar books you know 🙂

Restlessness comes due to some desire or the other of which we are not yet conscious. The desire pushes from behind, the nerves respond trying

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In my early teen years, I went through sexual abuse very intense, the whole night, all freezed, dark, cold, really horrible, now at i am in my thirtees taking therapy from very authentic person, Shri Maa follower, much needed I suppose. So leading life now in present is very traumatic experience itself.. awareness hits and hurts triggers, I know Mother is, has been watching, she knows it!

I can fully understand the trauma and its deep impact as a child. But one has to move towards the future rather than continuing to

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A sense of pride even if we know it’s wrong…A feeling of knowing things better than others, wanting to prove our knowledge. How to deal with this instinct? Should we stop discussions? Should I not talk to my friends because of this thing popping out everytime I talk to them? Some part of mine knows that I don’t know anything but when indulged into public.. while the self esteem is at stake, the pride pops up😏

Pride of course opens doors to downfall though at your age it is somewhat natural. Its remedy is to read books that open a very

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I have committed a sin or betrayed Sri Aurobindo by staying silent and even nodding, just going along with the flow of the conversation, when my mother, out of ignorance, called him ‘takla’ after seeing his photo on the internet? She didn’t mean anything bad, but I feel very guilty that I couldn’t stand up for my guru, my lord, who has shown me so much grace. I feel I have failed him, and I am filled with shame.🫣

There is nothing to feel ashamed or guilty or inflict harsh words upon yourself. Most human beings do such things out of ignorance, sometimes even

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Sir, you said in the initial part of video something like there are people who can’t keep up with pace of life and all throughout this video, I saw you blaming the depressed 😔person himself for his condition. Is it not the society’s fault for the fast pace? Do we need this pace? Do we not need to slow down? And also isn’t depression a crisis for evolution? I suffer from depression since a long time. I am always fatigued. But I am a fighter. But the pace is something I can’t handle. Also judgement of society? Why must society judge one on their standards? Isn’t society toxic in a lot of ways? I see depression as an evolutionary crisis. Could you share your thoughts on this?

I am not sure which video gave you this impression that one gets depressed because one is unable to keep pace with the Society! On

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