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Alok da, since last 15 days we are struggling to make our 11 year old sleep in his own room, though he sleeps in his room every other night he come and sleep with us, we have tried everything but he wants me to make him sleep and even after that he gets up and wants me to put him to sleep again in the middle of the night, we feel it’s high time that he needs to sleep on his own, Please advice😳.

Yes children should begin to sleep by themselves by 5. In India, due to stronger emotional bonding and family attachment it takes longer. In any

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In yesterday’s question on marriage where parents emotionally blackmailing their child to get married you said it is extremely selfish act at its core but they also used to tell us like we are also becoming selfish by not fulfilling their wish. In such a scenario we really don’t have answer answer and such thoughts comes like are we also acting selfishly? Please guide whose demand is valid here😥?

There is a fundamental right given by the Divine to make our free choices and suffer the good or bad consequences. That is the whole

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Alok da, the other day my son came from school and he was so irritated he had to do a write up on Mahatma Ghandhi and he just did not want to, he said I have had it ahimsa and all that, then I remember that when I was a child I myself was irritated to study about him, all that was do boring and then why son asked me why is he even called the father of the nation ? And I know studying ghandhi ji is so boring oh these dharam karam ki baatein as a teenager I could not relate to him, he is not like Shivaji or Rama or Krishna or Sri Aurobindo.. what should I tell him…🤔?

You can tell him that everyone has his own ideas and so did Gandhi ji have his own. As far as his ideas go, they

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Alok da, some time back I had an argument with my mother as she said I was rude with my brother and so first I told her she is making a big deal while me and my brother are fine and then the argument got into shouting when she was lecturing me about being an elder sibling and my responsibility blah blah blah and when I told her that, “Well please first see how you both are with your siblings and the example you set then tell me”, and I know that I am much better and more responsible than them😠, so of course the situation went out of hand and she created a tantrum for a week, I know I was not in the wrong but I am just curious how can this situation be handled better? Can a child not tell a parent that you should practice before you preach? 

Certainly one should be free to discuss freely and frankly with parents, teachers, elders everyone. Nachiketa, Prahlad, Lakshman, Sita are all examples among many others.

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I have observed more and more children in USA and other countries are Autism and have Down syndrome, in fact a friend told me one in every 40 child in USA is autistic, why is this happening? Is it the pressure of the consciousness? Is it Divine way of balancing the universe as Autistic people are simple as they are not cunning or mean or ambitious like they don’t have the mental traits like a mental human have, please shares your view on this🫤. 

It is difficult to say with certainty but a number of factors could be operating.

Vaccination drives since few decades could be responsible for

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My niece who is 12 yrs old doesn’t like sharing😥. If she takes her favorite food to school and her friends ask her to share, she doesn’t give or gives a very small piece. If by chance she happens to share a chocolate with girls she doesn’t like, she wants to snatch it away. She is attached to Krishna, and only thing that pacifies her is when we tell her that Krishna likes if she shares what He has given her. She says “I know it’s bad, i know it’s a devil that says this, but I can’t overpower it. It tells me that those girls did bad and said bad things about you, instead of that you shared your things, now you go steal something from them. Or I keep thinking what will I get if I give them”..[conti]

Single child may not be the reason. Rather it is quite unlikely. Children often pick up number of behaviours that they unconsciously notice in significant

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I have a very weird relationship with my parents when it comes to their relationships with their parents. I don’t share a very happy relationship with my grand parents due to their behavior with me and my family earlier in my life. They do not fit in my circle of people and i have communicated to my parents clearly that i will only have a cordial relationship with them, in terms of only greeting when we meet. I prefer to keep my wife and kid away from the grand parents influence, however my father’s expectation on this is more and we have a tiff every time an incident happens. I have come to terms with this situation, however how do I communicate this to my parents clearly and again😠?

Communication is mainly meant to build bridges by expressing what is going on within oneself. The purpose is to help build a bond of deeper

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Why do one feels a sense of burden always? I really don’t know if its a general pattern with all specially with my teen that I feel very confused or its specific to me… I see a conflict with my child most of the days… her soul and mind seems to be of a 20 yr old.. the way she analyses sometimes, speaks with clarity feels awww. On the other side her vital, its demands, peer group influence is of a teenager… there is a fight in her and she feesl very angry, worthless, scared of that she would be nothing and no one would know her etc and imposes undue pressure onto her…… and feels exhausted … she can’t be consistent with things, does things when she feels like and knows that is not good and then she will over analyze it and gets into criticism. How to help her out of this😥? What ever we do seems to be of little help as she has a habit of self induce pressure and can’t deliver things.

The sense of burden is common to all thinking human beings. There are those who do not think much and their life is confined either

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