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My niece who is 12 yrs old doesn’t like sharing😥. If she takes her favorite food to school and her friends ask her to share, she doesn’t give or gives a very small piece. If by chance she happens to share a chocolate with girls she doesn’t like, she wants to snatch it away. She is attached to Krishna, and only thing that pacifies her is when we tell her that Krishna likes if she shares what He has given her. She says “I know it’s bad, i know it’s a devil that says this, but I can’t overpower it. It tells me that those girls did bad and said bad things about you, instead of that you shared your things, now you go steal something from them. Or I keep thinking what will I get if I give them”..[conti]

Single child may not be the reason. Rather it is quite unlikely. Children often pick up number of behaviours that they unconsciously notice in significant

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I have a very weird relationship with my parents when it comes to their relationships with their parents. I don’t share a very happy relationship with my grand parents due to their behavior with me and my family earlier in my life. They do not fit in my circle of people and i have communicated to my parents clearly that i will only have a cordial relationship with them, in terms of only greeting when we meet. I prefer to keep my wife and kid away from the grand parents influence, however my father’s expectation on this is more and we have a tiff every time an incident happens. I have come to terms with this situation, however how do I communicate this to my parents clearly and again😠?

Communication is mainly meant to build bridges by expressing what is going on within oneself. The purpose is to help build a bond of deeper

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Why do one feels a sense of burden always? I really don’t know if its a general pattern with all specially with my teen that I feel very confused or its specific to me… I see a conflict with my child most of the days… her soul and mind seems to be of a 20 yr old.. the way she analyses sometimes, speaks with clarity feels awww. On the other side her vital, its demands, peer group influence is of a teenager… there is a fight in her and she feesl very angry, worthless, scared of that she would be nothing and no one would know her etc and imposes undue pressure onto her…… and feels exhausted … she can’t be consistent with things, does things when she feels like and knows that is not good and then she will over analyze it and gets into criticism. How to help her out of this😥? What ever we do seems to be of little help as she has a habit of self induce pressure and can’t deliver things.

The sense of burden is common to all thinking human beings. There are those who do not think much and their life is confined either

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