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Life Problems And Psychological Difficulties

My husband comes from a very orthodox family, and to be honest, he often humiliates me for not pronouncing Sanskrit shlokas correctly. He teases me, saying that I am not from a Brahmin family. I’m in an environment where respect seems to be granted only when I earn. Although I didn’t leave my job intentionally, I was laid off. How should I respond or pray in these circumstances😥? I’ve been communicating with the Mother about this regularly, but I haven’t seen any results.

You should know that those who are truly wise and developed are humble. Whereas those who are proud are merely vain. So you needn’t attach

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I am 19 years old. I got addicted to pornography and masturbation out of boredom and loneliness especially during covid period. Now I have developed bad addiction to this and also I’m unable to overcome thoughts of those kind. I am constantly thinking of getting girls only for the sake of physical relationship with them and leaving (one night stand) And also I am disinterested towards studies and career and marriage. Yet I seek help. Please help me Alok da. What can I do😔?

Yes as you must have understood by now that masturbation, though quite common, is not a healthy habit especially when it turns into a regular

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I have met a person 4 years back and he was a complete stranger to me But it felt like I had already know him, his face is known to me he often comes to my work place but we never talked only eye contact and than I left that place later that year and moved to another place but I was not happy, I might have missed him and suddenly I got his request on insta and we started chatting, he also felt the same . I knew that he drank but still I fell in love with him. Everything was going right, after a year we met at a mall for 30 mins, again we started talking we never had fights for 1.5 years but relation was on and off, he was not serious but after that he proposed me for marriage and than our fights started because I wanted him to quit his drinking habits and he assured me he will if we get married but slowly our fights increased and he abused me verbally on call😪,

It is better to be safe than sorry later on. What you experienced is not love but some kind of vital affinity leading to a

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Alok da , I am always confused and indecisive🫣.. this led me to always having big dreams and achieving nothing nor effectively studying since I was 12 and I’m close to 30. I give up like anything. Either I don’t like this or that about this job or that job or this exam or that exam or I’m scared of job profile as a girl or it’s in my state and I want to explore and it’s the same in all aspects of my life. And I never give 100% effort. I feel like I will end up a loser if this keeps going and after all this thinking I again end up watching random web series. The only good thing in life is the 10-20 minutes I spend talking to image of Ma and Aurobindo in the book. But by making mistakes which I know are mistakes, Isn’t that just pushing me more into darkness? Am I rushing or hurrying too much? It’s like I’m sinking deeper and deeper into the abyss of old habits and I don’t know where and what to conquer and stick to it. I’ve watched everything all cures but do nothing for long. Then a thought comes why am I worrying about all this when it’s all god’s plan and then again fall into the cycle in a day or two. I don’t understand anything. You’ll guide me and I’ll not even follow that for more than three days. Can I possibly do anything to grow and rise to a balanced living?

I have a simple suggestions for you.
Sit quietly for 10 min everyday and think about the purpose of your life.
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My in-laws have belief that I should not keep pictures of my deceased parents as my Whatsapp dp or as wallpaper. I am not sure about this belief, mean while I searched online and found a video of one baba saying about it hinders the soul passing away . I have kept my father childhood picture as my Whatsapp dp …will it hinder his soul or energy to go peacefully. What about all those pictures of late president and Gandhi Jj and prime ministers who are hanged in government offices and places of work. Are they all realised soul? I read we should keep pics of realized soul . This question might be feel stupid but I don’t know whom to ask 😪. I am still attached to my father so I feel like keeping his pictures. What’s your opinion on this? Kindly help.

What hinders the smooth transition is attachment, grief, crying etc. Deep affection, love, wish and prayer to have a safe journey are helpful. Of course

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I am suffering from neuropathy and it is very trying and I need to know why and how I can get better and be completely free from it? Have tried many therapies including Acupuncture and now reflexology! It is better but there is constriction in the feet and pins and needles in the feet and sometimes hands also. Please please help me🙏      

Nerves require peace and rest to heal. You should call peace constantly in the system. Use a mantra that gives you the sense of peace

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