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I am in a committed relationship with my partner for almost 5 years. The first few years were normal but since last year we both have had issues mentally. We’re both seeking therapies from our respective therapists but as of now the constant fights is ruining the very aspect of happiness in our relationship and I feel like the love we had for each other has lessened. Their is minimal to no mutual respect for each other and I know that we’ll stick by each other till the end but I’m not very hopeful if we’ll be happy . My question to you was if a lot of boundaries have been crossed and we’ve said things to each other we can’t really take back 😪and there’s a lot of bitterness for each other and we’re not as passionate about each other as we used to be. Even after all these things will we able to put things in the past and move forward. Do things get better after all these things ? I try as long as I can but sometimes, I don’t see that patience and willingness to work on our relationship from the other side so what am I supposed to do to make things better ?

It is difficult to say much without knowing all the details which for obvious reasons cannot be done through the email. However given your age,

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How can you manage your life when you are living around pleasure centric individuals, either they want to party and make programs and if they are at home they are irritated.. and they hinder your work …so what to do? As there is a point in live that I just want to avoid them as I have nothing more to talk to them and also I get annoyed with the amount of social programs they make😪…

Here is a letter of Sri Aurobindo with regard to contact with the outside world. Here is a letter of Sri Aurobindo with regard to

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I’ve developed mutual romantic feelings for my cousin. We’re not very closely related, but not too distant either. Some of my muslim friends say there’s nothing wrong with it, also I feel a strong physical attraction toward this person. I’m wondering if this is wrong, especially if we end up getting physically involved😥.

It is quite likely a physical attraction alone. Regardless of being a cousin and setting aside moral notions, physical relation before marriage comes with a

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Why is it that some 50-year-olds, despite having experienced so much in life and claiming to be wise, still fail to grasp certain basic truths? When I ask them not to think negatively, they insist they’re not being negative, just realistic. They say, “This is how humans are. We have endless responsibilities. You younger ones won’t understand, our minds are always preoccupied.” I can’t help but wonder how, after all these years, they still haven’t learned the fundamentals.😡

Yes some people never really grow up and learn. Instead they take it that whatever they have been or learnt is the ultimate truth and

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Dear Alok Da, foremostly, Thank you for the platform. I have a question or may be an observation. Men (or boys) hold a soft corner for women who are Pretty and are (or act) naive and submissive (whereas at times they are manipulative and drawing undue benefits of men in their awe). But there is a visible difference in their behaviour and they act rudely and insensitively with women who are not so pretty, but bold and assertive. They have a presumed idea of her being a spoilt feminism brat and deserves to be dealt with roughly. Also they offer help to pretty women from their side with pleasure but choose to deny help even if the other kind of women ask them for help, taking it to be an unnecessary weight on them. Is it so important to be pretty and act gently (by dropping off boldness) just to win the collaboration of the counterpart especially at workplace😳?

There is possibly a truth in your observation except that it should not be generalised. If we look carefully it is not so much the

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In yesterday’s question on marriage where parents emotionally blackmailing their child to get married you said it is extremely selfish act at its core but they also used to tell us like we are also becoming selfish by not fulfilling their wish. In such a scenario we really don’t have answer answer and such thoughts comes like are we also acting selfishly? Please guide whose demand is valid here😥?

There is a fundamental right given by the Divine to make our free choices and suffer the good or bad consequences. That is the whole

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Dada, can psychic love 💓 be stablish with the one who holds very opposite point of view and believes in different school of thought. The person seems very beautiful at heart and respectful in nature. But when it comes to connect with thoughts and believes they seems to hold reasoning mind quite strongly. What should be my attitude in such senario and how to go about it. Please guide dada 

Dada, can psychic love be stablish with the one who holds very opposite point of view and believes in different school of thought. The person

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