AT THE FEET OF THE MOTHER

Life Problems And Psychological Difficulties

My parents say that reading Sri Aurobindo and the Mother’s books and listening to the talks, is pointless if I don’t prioritize them. They taunt me, insisting that if I don’t put my family first, everything I’m doing is meaningless. They believe there is a certain age for engaging in such things and feel that, despite all my reading and listening, my nature hasn’t changed, they criticize me by saying this. They question the purpose of it all. Deep inside, I know I am progressing in some way, but as parents, they remind me that I haven’t taken sanyas and can still take care of the family. I do that, but they want to control my life and expect me to follow their way completely. They say is that what they teach you in books and ashram 😥

This is an old outdated way of thinking that the main work of a child is support the family, look after the parents and to

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My mother has been suffering from neuropathy for some years and it’s becoming worse. Her toes and feet get constricted and numbness, tingling and burning in her hands and weakness in her legs going upwards. Since my father passed away few months ago, she has had many health issues which I have written to you. Her tests are all clear so we don’t understand why this is happening. She is losing her will to live and is in a depressed state. We keep encouraging her to Keep her faith in the Mother and be as normal as possible. She tries but doesn’t feel good. What is the spiritual cause for her physical issues? How can we help her 😥so that she helps herself?

The cause seems to be primarily physical, which could be anything from vitamin deficiency to blood sugar or thyroid issues. It is difficult to say

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I have not been in a relationship for over 7 years. My vital often gets attracted to people, but my mind is firmly convinced that a relationship is an unnecessary burden in my life. I shrink away from the thought of being committed to someone, of having to please another person. What an unnecessary waste of time and energy! But unless one is in a relationship, how is one to express one’s sexual urges😫?

Well one doesn’t get into a relationship only to express the sexual urge. All societies have always provided certain safety valves for that. Besides by

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I already have a daughter. When I conceived for the second time, some people advised me to take medicine from a different source to have a son, while others suggested doing a computer (sex selection). But I didn’t listen to them because everything I have received from childhood until now, I have received from the Mother. So I said that Mother will give what she wants to. But now that I have a daughter, people are asking why I didn’t do the computer or why I didn’t take medicine. I feel like I was wrong. I am unable to come out of this situation. I am not sure how to stabilize myself and move forward. Please give me some solutions😥.

We should listen to our own self and our own judgment instead of listening to people’s words. The Mother has never differentiated between a boy

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I just have a little question about harmony as today is Lakshmi Puja. How does one maintain harmony in the family effectively? When there are fights, I try to stay calm as long as I can and negotiate. However when it becomes unbearable, I give up and get angry. Sometimes when I make mistakes, I quickly apologize and try to correct it in order to maintain peace but it never seems to work well. My family keeps talking about my faults again and again even after I apologize. I am trying from my side but when the other person won’t co-operate, I don’t know what to do. I honestly feel like a failure. I have prayed to the Mother but is there anything else I can do from my side😥?

Harmony is very difficult to achieve in human relationship because each of the ego operating system. Hence each believes himself to be right and his

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My question was regarding dealing with colleagues at workplace especially when there are small talks are going on regarding very trivial matters. What should be our approach towards that! If we don’t get indulged in that discussion they treat us as outcasts!! So I was asking how to deal with everybody consciously with a right attitude at workplace which I suppose one of the most challenging aspects of professional life😯?

In the work place, it is best to remain professional and focused on the work. As to people, our interactions with them should be pleasant

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I realize that surrendering completely is essential, but I struggle with it. Right now, I’m not in a good place—while my batchmates are progressing in their careers, I am still without a job despite working hard. This has affected my confidence deeply, and I find myself feeling inadequate and easily distracted😥. Please advise.

Success in outer life is a combination of factors. It is not a judgment on one’s capacity or character. Besides each person has his or

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What I explored today when there were scoundrels harassing us in a park, that while focusing on getting Gyaan, I have ignored Shakti. I don’t have courage. I should have turned that man upside down. And is not the Mother’s protection with me? Then why didn’t I have any urge to fight anyone. I ignored those rascals without getting disturbed. But Why? They deserved to be beaten up. Understand my points please and Guide me😬.

As to Shakti, I agree. We have become too much seekers after philosophical knowledge and too much of emotional bhaktas. Both these things are no

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When someone talks to themselves, who are they talking to😏? The mind is just mumbling in solitude, right? If someone prays, isn’t it the same action? The mind creates an image that religion has given, referring to it as God, and then it engages in a conversation with that image in its mind. Is there something different happening that is being overlooked?

There are many levels of the mind and there are things beyond the mind itself. When we speak to ourselves we are speaking from one

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I am easily affected by others opinions and suggestions. For example if someone tells me one thing I start believing that but if someone else tells me something quite opposite of that I start doubting the first one. How to develop my own individuality in which I can take my own decisions (after listening to all) even if it appears wrong to others🤷‍♀️?

Yes one must develop individuality by taking the charge of life in one’s own hands. We are often afraid to do so partly because we

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