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AT THE FEET OF THE MOTHER

Life Problems And Psychological Difficulties

“Follow your passion” some people say. I am stuck a little. I have a broad direction in which I want my life to develop — in service of the nation. At the same time, the scope of different careers is so wide that I don’t know what is best for me! A part of me wants to study something very practical which will enable me to realise this vision even if I don’t like the subject in and of itself (for example, studying finance). Another part of me wants me to do something that I would intrinsically enjoy studying (for example, music or history). However, I doubt whether choosing this path will enable me to develop the skills or knowledge that will be of much use when it comes to making impactful change in society. Can you suggest how I can develop clarity on this? I definitely agree with people who say that you can only succeed in and be happy doing something that you feel passionate about. But isn’t this idea slightly overrated? Shouldn’t one be able to enjoy and succeed in whatever one does, no matter what it is? Even if it’s not something one enjoyed doing as a child or doesn’t have a natural predisposition towards😠?

March 18, 2025

We should first differentiate between what we are naturally drawn towards by our innate temperament and predilection. It is more of an inborn inclination whose

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I’m preparing for medical entrance examinations. But sir I can not understand what is reality behind all these things? An unknown thought kills me always😨. I can not keep balance in between my mind thoughts and my heart suggestions. But I firmly believe in The Mother. I know she will definitely guide me on me life path. But always I feel guilty that am I doing anything wrong. I can sometimes identify my mistakes but can’t overcome them. They always trap me with here and there thoughts. Sir what should I do. I want to read more and more but the real things. I read my study books but can’t link them. I don’t get the real joy of study. Sir please give me some suggestions

March 15, 2025

First of all there is no place for guilt. We constantly grow and as we grow we re evaluate life and learn and improve. This

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Da, can I know the eternal truth of life? I and my family are suffering from many types of worries. Probably we forgot how to get rid of all these pains suffering. It is so disappointing that we can not know what we are doing. Especially I can’t understand myself. I have a lot of queries. What should I do at this time? All the vital forces trapped me and my family. Please show me the right path😥 

March 14, 2025

If you are besieged with difficulties then try to go deep and understand their nature. Difficulties are in fact concealed opportunities for growth. they challenge

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My father is being suffering from schizophrenia from his teenage but no one really observed it but with time it’s worsen since last 10 years. His behavior is completely changed and he is became really very weird. He’s clinically diagnosed with schizophrenia before 3 months. Now his medication is going on. After taking medication his aggressiveness came down but his thought process is still same. Before few years he was really very spiritual, hygienic and kind. But now he became atheist, unhygienic (not bathing for weeks) and furious. So, My query is what else we can do after medication to change him back to his own personality. At the end I want you to guide me through the light of The Mother😰.

March 12, 2025

The first thing that is necessary is to ensure that medicines are given in time and regular contact with the treating doctor maintained. Regarding other

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Dada why I am behaving like a stupid. I can’t find out my way. Somewhere I listened that only reciting of the Mother’s name is enough for the starting of new journey towards transformation. But now I became the battle field. Always my mind thoughts and heart fights in between them. I can not hear to my hearts words. Always something is going on in my mind. Da what should I do😣?

March 7, 2025

Reciting the Mother’s Name is very powerful and the one supreme support of sadhana. But it is also good to cultivate faith and sincerity as

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Why we are  trapped by affection and love by our family members, relatives, friends and all these things. What is our true relationship with them.The Mother and Sri Aurobindo brings this eternal victory against death. That is death of death and manifest the Supramental being. Savitri didn’t let Jamaraj to bring Satyavan take with him. She could not bear his death, she fought against death and got victory against it. Is it possible to all human being. Can they also achieve it? Death is the necessary thing to learn and to grow up. But why immortality should manifest? Lots of questions arises in my mind Dada. What should I do🫤? 

March 7, 2025

We can continue the school analogy here too. Affection, attachments etc are not traps of illusion but steps and stages of our schooling. Just as

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Integrity to soul vs integrity to somebody else. I feel it’s a fine line and vulnerable to misuse in the name of soul integrity. But supposing somebody is following a higher call of the soul which comprises integrity to somebody else resulting in having to hide, lie, conceal etc. One side – there is following the true need – but does not lying, concealing etc. lower the consciousness ? Should we not always speak truth, be honest 🫤? Supposing the person you’ve lied to comes to find out – will that not results in a deep hurt and scars? Where is the line between selfishness and following a higher call and need ?

March 3, 2025

Absolutely true. Lying, deception etc are as far from the true soul life as earth from the heaven. It is also true that all scriptures

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Sometimes, you eagerly wait for a difficult situation to end because it feels exhausting and overwhelming. You keep wondering when it will finally be over. But when it does, instead of feeling relieved, you experience an emptiness, as if you’ve lost something meaningful. You might even start longing for that situation again, despite the struggles it brought, forgetting how difficult it actually was. Why does it happens😥?

March 1, 2025

It is because the vital energy was engaged in it. When the situation is over, the energy is released but then it is not directed

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I’m losing my capacity to act as per my will. I find often that I’m going back on my commitment that I make to others or I’m often late to events. Also, these days, I’m noticing that my fluency in speech and writing has gone down. I’m making mistakes, and even while arguing in debates, discussions, I find myself making flawed arguments.😏[Conti]

February 24, 2025

Try practicing meditation with the Gaytri mantra and cut down on sex and wasteful activities. Play games and stay happy doing the work that engages

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My parents say that reading Sri Aurobindo and the Mother’s books and listening to the talks, is pointless if I don’t prioritize them. They taunt me, insisting that if I don’t put my family first, everything I’m doing is meaningless. They believe there is a certain age for engaging in such things and feel that, despite all my reading and listening, my nature hasn’t changed, they criticize me by saying this. They question the purpose of it all. Deep inside, I know I am progressing in some way, but as parents, they remind me that I haven’t taken sanyas and can still take care of the family. I do that, but they want to control my life and expect me to follow their way completely. They say is that what they teach you in books and ashram 😥

February 23, 2025

This is an old outdated way of thinking that the main work of a child is support the family, look after the parents and to

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My mother has been suffering from neuropathy for some years and it’s becoming worse. Her toes and feet get constricted and numbness, tingling and burning in her hands and weakness in her legs going upwards. Since my father passed away few months ago, she has had many health issues which I have written to you. Her tests are all clear so we don’t understand why this is happening. She is losing her will to live and is in a depressed state. We keep encouraging her to Keep her faith in the Mother and be as normal as possible. She tries but doesn’t feel good. What is the spiritual cause for her physical issues? How can we help her 😥so that she helps herself?

February 22, 2025

The cause seems to be primarily physical, which could be anything from vitamin deficiency to blood sugar or thyroid issues. It is difficult to say

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I have not been in a relationship for over 7 years. My vital often gets attracted to people, but my mind is firmly convinced that a relationship is an unnecessary burden in my life. I shrink away from the thought of being committed to someone, of having to please another person. What an unnecessary waste of time and energy! But unless one is in a relationship, how is one to express one’s sexual urges😫?

February 20, 2025

Well one doesn’t get into a relationship only to express the sexual urge. All societies have always provided certain safety valves for that. Besides by

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