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People around me all think money💵 is the only requirement. I see greed in their eyes. I work in a private organization, gets enough salary for myself and don’t want more. My parents are looking for a girl for marriage. Please put some light on money. How one should take decision in terms of money. What should one keep in mind. Jai Sri Maa.

September 9, 2025

Money should not govern one’s decisions nor be the main priority. It has its own place in life but a place too often exaggerated due

Why does it happen that once we finally get something we once wished for, we no longer feel the same joy in it? For example, buying a new phone or a new car. What is the lesson behind this😦?

September 7, 2025

It is the very nature of desire self that the more it gets, the more it demands. That is why you will observe that people

1. How can I stop getting irritated and frustrated over small things in general, and especially when someone doesn’t behave the way I expect😥?

September 6, 2025

Live in the wideness. When we are identified with the body as the self and our mind is centered around small things such as physical

How to deal with the worries and fears about a possible future difficulty, that may or may not come? I think my psychosis is magnifying my worries many times. Sometimes, I am unable to divert my attention from these worries, dear Alok da. I am praying to the Divine, which comforts me sometimes, but not always. I want to remember the Divine most of the time, but with these worries, it feels as if I am living in a mental hell. I want to take Refuge in the Divine, and so, be free of all worries, but I think my psychosis is not allowing me to nestle much in the Divine’s arms. I want to talk and pray to the Divine, both by speaking and writing to Him, but I am unable to come out of these worries, which is making it difficult even to talk to the Divine. I try to reason out the worries by mental analysis, but that is not helping either, perhaps because of my psychosis, dear Alok da. I want to connect to the Divine most of the time, but these worries are very painful😕

September 4, 2025

Don’t keep thinking of the difficulties and the worries. They only increase by it. As to psychosis take whatever treatment you may have been advised

My mother passed away sometime back due to cardiac arrest, leaving behind 3 daughter’s and my father… we all are in a shock n blank, not able to accept her death, mind is dulled, don’t know what to do? Alok Da, we want to talk to our mother 😭

September 2, 2025

The shock of the family is understandable. But it is important to understand that each soul has its own unique journey and while she is

I am still not sure how to deal with my libido. As a young male, I occasionally experience extremely strong sexual desire. I am not in a relationship, I don’t masturbate or watch porn. I tried following some of your advice, such as exercise, breathing, creative expression, etc. It helped me enormously. But still there are times in which I just get completely submerged in lustful thoughts and overpowering desires. During such times I cannot sleep in the night and just crave sex intensely. When such states come, my mind starts telling me that I should just find somebody with whom I could have regular sex so that I don’t feel this agony😟, [conti]

August 30, 2025

What helps handling these strong sexual impulses is to stay as busy as one can be, especially with a work that can be done in

I have a habit of rushing through everything I do—whether it’s bathing, eating, washing clothes, or any other daily task. I always feel like I’m in a hurry, even when there’s no need to be. I want to change this habit🫤

August 24, 2025

Try to do everything consciously, deliberately. Practice the attitude of being a witness in all you do, not just of the action but of the

My parents are asking me to start thinking about finding a man to date and eventually marry. They are nudging me to meet men. I was recently talking to one guy that I met while on a run. He stopped me and asked for my number and based on looks I gave it to him. We started to go running together and when I would go study on weekends he would join me. He is 4 years younger and now went back to college which is about 4 hours away so we were talking over text and phone, but today, on a call he asked me some questions about the future and I told him the situation with my parents about them wanting me to find a husband and the other factor which is race / ethnicity. The one I was talking to is of African and Mexican descent and I figured even though my parents are accepting, that it would cause some issues which I don’t want to deal with. Despite us getting along so well and him treating me like a princess, when I told him today he got very upset about it. Now I am not feeling inclined to reach back out and fight for it because he’s pretty upset and it feels pointless since I’ve made up my mind that I will listen to my parents / find an Indian man for them, but I also wonder if I made a mistake because I was afraid of family reactions and considering I did have feelings for him😥 [conti]

August 24, 2025

I understand your situation. But you must remove certain misconceptions about marraige. There are no ready made partners. Relationships have to be built and it

Hi Alok da, what do u thinks of abortions? Do u approve or not😥? Did Mother approve or not?

August 18, 2025

A child should not be brought into the world if the parents, especially the mother, is not ready. Of course it is best to take

I used to tell me about the difficulty of sexual urges, masturbation earlier. Nowadays I don’t feel very strong urges in the body, and if an urge pops up , something within me shots or burns that urge at the very next moment. As I’m in my hometown nowadays, I’m sitting whole day in the sunlight and feel very fresh throughout the day

August 17, 2025

That is good to know. It is indeed a Grace to be released from these urges. But it is best not to speak about…

“Fear 😨is the greatest impurity.” How can one overcome fear in the workplace? For example, I sometimes feel frightened that I might make a mistake at work.

August 13, 2025

Faith is the remedy, faith in oneself, faith in one’s destiny, faith in the Divine and along with faith, surrender to the Divine Mother’s Will

Alok da, I go for a walk in the park every day, and I’ve noticed that some men keep staring at me. It feels quite uncomfortable. What do you think is the best way to deal with such situations or respond to them😨?

August 8, 2025

The more indifferent you grow the less they will stare. Looking back locks the eyes and awakens all kinds of feelings. If you ignore it

Over the past decade I have faced far too many personal & professional failures. Nothing I seek is seeking me, in fact its getting repelled from me the moment I start working towards it. I’m loosing my faith in the world, I see myself alienating from almost everyone. I’m a well meaning, truthful and soul curious person. What’s happening to me? Is this a sign for me to leave the material world🥹?

August 6, 2025

It is the moment to reckon the truth that you are perhaps not marked for the things that you are seeking in ignorance. It is

My mother passed away on 14 Nov due to cardiac arrest, leaving behind 3 daughter’s and my father… we all are in a shock n blank, not able to accept her death, mind is dulled, don’t know what to do? Alok Da, we want to talk to our mother.

August 2, 2025

The shock of the family is understandable. But it is important to understand that each soul has its own unique journey and while she is

“Sex creates lot of vital excitement and after the act the consciousness takes a dip into dense dark fields exposing and making one vulnerable to forces of darkness and falsehood”. Does this also apply to addictions like alcohol and tobacco etc.🤔?

July 30, 2025

Alcohol and tobacco not only lower the consciousness but leave their stamp upon the brain. They affect not only the vital but also the physical

On our spiritual inclination, we meditate. How can we Differentiate between delusion and visions? How can we be sure that it’s not some sort of hebephrenic episode🤔?

July 27, 2025

A person having delusions and hallucinations does not questions them as he is fully convinced about them. In any case these are terms we use

I feel like my life has been full of hardships and struggles. Nothing ever comes to me easily, while others seem to get the same things effortlessly. And even when I finally do receive what I wanted, I don’t truly enjoy it because when I needed it the most, it wasn’t there. In the end, I do get everything, but it often feels too late to matter😥. [conti]

July 26, 2025

Some lives are marked out for struggle, others for fruition. That is the whole idea of rebirth, a constant progress wherein the inner wealth we

Sir, what can be the spiritual reason behind the suicide incident that happened with respect to 3 lady ashram inmates😲?

July 16, 2025

Suicide in the Ashram or anywhere else is due to only one cause, and that is the attack of hostile forces. In fact the sadhaka

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