Yes one must develop individuality by taking the charge of life in one’s own hands. We are often afraid to do so partly because we are afraid of making mistakes and second because we avoid taking responsibility for our actions. What we need to cultivate is faith and courage, two foremost qualities of the soul. The faith that we need is that the Divine is guiding and leading me through everything and if I keep my trust in Him then He will carry me through everything, turn difficulties into opportunities, mistakes into pearls of wisdom, errors as stepping stones upon our journey. Have courage and move through life with faith in yourself, in destiny, in God.
Along with that fix a clear goal for yourself, an ideal and try to see life, events and your choices in that mirror, whether they are aligned or not aligned with your highest ideal. Then you don’t have to look up towards anyone. Rather as you continue people will respect you for your integrity and start looking up to you.
Affectionately,
Alok Da